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writes:So I have only known this guy for a few weeks but I have found out that it is his 30th birthday at the end of the month. It is quite a significant birthday and whilst we haven't known each other long, he is incredibly thoughtful and we have been spoiling each other since the day we met. I don't want to go too crazy and out there like I would if we had been together at least a year or something, but I would like to make an impression on such a significant birthday. Does anyone have any recommendations?I was thinking a night away somewhere with dinner, or a cooking masterclass or something but I don't know if that is too full on? He wants to learn to surf, he is interested in Japanese culture and also seems to enjoy cooking/hosting. Any ideas are very welcome and thanks in advance!! x Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 March 2019):
 Keep it simple. It's true that 30 is an important birthday, but it is also true that you have only known this guy for a few weeks; if you go overboard with gifts it would be tasteless ,and a bit awkward.
Why don't you buy him a cookbook or two about Japanese cooking ? You can find a lot of them, for instance, on Amazon, from the basic " tempura for dummies " kind of thing to more sophisticated stuff with almost unknown ( to us Westerners ) recipes. In this way, you kill two birds with a stone, catering to his interests for Japan and for cooking ( sorry, I could not manage to fit in surf too ! )
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (3 March 2019):
Keep it simple. It's true that 30 is an important birthday, but it is also true that you have only known this guy for a few weeks; if you go overboard with gifts it would be tasteless ,and a bit awkward.
Why don't you buy him a cookbook or two about Japanese cooking ? You can find a lot of them, for instance, on Amazon, from the basic " tempura for dummies " kind of thing to more sophisticated stuff with almost unknown ( to us Westerners ) recipes. In this way, you kill two birds with a stone, catering to his interests for Japan and for cooking ( sorry, I could not manage to fit in surf too ! )
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (2 March 2019):
 First of all, kudos to you for learning his interests and tailoring a date to those interests! THat's 80% of the work right there!
I agree with the others -- something not too serious. No jewelry or anything signifying undying love or anything like that. Focus on FUN!
Take him to a really good hibachi Japanese restaurant! I just went to one with my son last night! We have a really good independently-owned one that tastes glorious and is absolutely a fantastic celebration of Japanese culinary delights. He loved it so much more than Benihana, though I like Benihana just fine! That'll hit both his love of Japanese culture AND his love of cooking/culinary techniques. What a blast!
I don't know where you live, but it *is* pretty cold for surfing this time of year! A book or something would work, or a DVD/Blue Ray on learning to surf would be really good too.
Now if you'll excuse me, my leftover sashimi from lat night's dinner is calling my name right now!
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reader, singinbluebird +, writes (2 March 2019):
 Nothing. Just bring best version of "you" out on the date. Have fun, laugh, be joyful, flirt and flirt. Men want have to fun, they never care about gifts so shine away ! He will feel like his best gift is a hapoy, sexy, girlfriend who desires him...men are very simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2019): A birthday party just for two or with a couple of friends. For gift you can choose: after shave lotion, shirt, tie, socks,pull over, watch etc. etc..
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 March 2019):
 I would do something low key and NOT too expensive.
I agree a nice dinner, a card and a small gift (or no gift)
Small gift can be a book (on surfing or something Japanese inspired), a plant or something like that.
Since you have only known him a VERY short time a small gift is appropriate. If you are still together NEXT birthday... go bigger :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 March 2019):
 A nice dinner at a restaurant + a small gift would be just fine.
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