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writes:Dear Cupid, I have been going out with my boyfriend for a while, he's English and I'm Asian. Most of the time I try not to let cultural differences become our relationship problems. However, there's one thing that bugs me quite a lot: the fact that he will take acid every time he goes to his friends' party. I don't wanna act as if I was him mum, and I don't wanna be one, so I kept it in and never talked about it until a few days ago. He was going to his friends' party and because I knew there will absolutely be drugs involved, I asked, not told, him if would consider not taking too much drugs.I never intend to change the way he is as he's not addicted to it that it affects his work or health, and as lots of people I know take acid when partying, I assume it's kinda alright for western culture. I, asian and quite conservative-raised, find drugs a difficult thing to be accepted, unlike ciggies and drinks. There's also this doubtful feeling that keeps bother me when my boyfriend said he took just a little bit of acid. How would I know if he really took small amount of it when I was not there?I wanna know if this kinda thing is normal and it's fully his own business that I shouldn't mess with his life and his rights to do whatever he wants? As for that doubtful feeling, I know I'm thinking too much. I just love and worry about him and his health, that's all.Thank you for every advice!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Heck NO ! It is NOT normal.
Do you really ,really believe that all English people drop acid every time they go to a party ??? English people may be eccentric, but.. they are not that eccentric.
Btw, your boyfriend must be really reckless, correct me if I am wrong but last time I was in your country anti-drug laws were extremely severe ; he could really get into a lot of trouble.
Psychotropic drugs are very dangerous in the long run and no, they are not kind of allright for a vast portion of
Western world.
Good luck with making him stop,- honestly I don't think you can. People into drugs only stop if they decide to, never to please somebody else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): You are realistic and so am I and as I see it I don't think he will stop! My bf is the same n I know my time would be wasted if I asked him to stop!Your bf may give up as he gets older-who can say? The chances are he will be ok at his parties but its a huge "Western thing" n won't go away! Me? Never touch them!!Try not to worry as I really know what its like!
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