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writes:Im in a relationship with a guy who claims to have been in love with me since school. Im 25 yrs old now, and we started dating a year back. I wasn't in touch with him all these yrs, and although I knew he existed, we never spoke or anything.Just a few days back he told me about his ex-girlfriend and his relationship with her. It bothers me that he was physically attracted to this girl, because Iv never been attracted to any other boy. This is the first time that Iv really been in a proper relationship and felt this way for any guy. Whenever I think of his relationship with his ex, it freaks me out. I mean, he's looked at another woman the way he looks at me now!! And I always thought he was in love with me. I dont think I can go on with this. Am i over reacting?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 August 2010):
Yes, you are I'm afraid. Because you'll never meet a man who hasn't looked at a woman at some point and been attracted to her. And, let's face it, it didn't work out between them. And he looks at you in a completely different way because he's with you and not her. If he didn't love you more, he wouldn't be with you now. But if you can't deal with it, then you need to let him go.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Attraction, sexual attraction is such a small part of a relationship. Small but powerful. You are right to be cautious should she ever return to his life but don't demand that he leave her alone and she leave him alone if they aren't really doing anything.
As long as he treats you the way a boyfriend is supposed to treat his girlfriend, I don't think you have anything to worry about.
I hope that helps.
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