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writes:Hi, Im 23 Married and I have 2 kids. I dont drive and my husband works all sorts of shifts hes very helpful with our kids, ive currently got my learners permit and recently got myself a car. But today the weather is horrible, its raining with very strong winds. So i thought i would ask my mum for some help with getting my son from school, when i asked she said.. "I shouldnt have to be helping you all the time" I told her not to worry about it and we will be fine. I dont ever ask my mum for help because i feel to embarrased too. I hardly ask for help from her actually.. She didnt raise me my Grandmother did. But my mum wants to have a lot to do with my kids and asks to babysit and to see them all the time. I dont ask her to babysit ever because i dont need her to. I just curious to why she would say something like that. I feel bad for asking..Im I asking for to much?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Because she thinks your married with 2 kids and an adult so thus you should be able to do it yourself. But, I understand where you're coming from not being comfortable with driving in that weather with your kids and just having a learner's permit. In Aus, you don't have to have anyone with you when you have your learner's permit? Sounds like she's not much of a mother due to the fact she didn't raise you, so she really doesn't know how to act around you. Or she was being sarcastic meaning "you can ask me to help more than you do". However, I think it's more of the first one. She's mother even though she hasn't been much one, I would have her babysit a few times. Also, she could realize that she messed up with you and want to try to make up for it with her grandkids.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (25 August 2010):
 No. It sounds like your mother wasn't exactly the 'motherly' type was she? You have nothing to feel bad about, your mother on the other hand, has some questions to answer. If she wants to be a big part of the kids lives then why does she complain? You said you never actually ask her for anything a part from that one little favor. She has a choice to make, does she want to be a part of the kids lives or not, because you don't need her to be. You asked for this one small thing and she complains about it?
I hope that helps.
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Well, since you don't let her babysit your kids, she feels offended and that's why she refused to pick up your son from school.
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