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writes: Hello everyone actually I'm quite curious to tell about my relation as I'm dating a guy and it's been just 1 mth that we have been in a relation and he always likes licking my boobs and he always like to put his hand n rub in my private part i am 18 years old n I don't know whether I'm doing right or wrong vannu guys plz suggest me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2017): If you're unsure then don't do it. It's only been a month so seems very soon. A so, if you can't use the actual words for what you are doing/he is touching, them you're definitely not ready.
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reader, Dionee' +, writes (28 July 2017):
OP, if you don't feel right about it (since you're here asking about it I feel that you don't) then it isn't right. It's too soon for you to be getting intimate with this guy (it's only been a month AND it makes you uncomfortable) and my guess is that sex is all that he's after.
BE CAREFUL or you will be opening yourself up to possibly getting hurt by this guy.
Ask or rather TELL him to stop what he is doing because it makes you uncomfortable and if he doesn't take your request seriously then you should seriously consider letting go of this guy altogether.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (27 July 2017):
Chances are, you're just sex buddies, not dating. Most people who are dating will wait a bit longer before intimacy, at least when they are as young as you. How old is he?
I think you should set boundaries or you'll get used, heartbroken and a bad reputation.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (27 July 2017):
What is right, or wrong?
What is good or bad?
What is holy or evil?
These things are questions of your own moral code. Perhaps you have no moral code. Perhaps you are questioning your moral code. As far as the moral question, I will give you this guidance. When your actions are contrary to your own moral code, when the things you are doing are things you believe are wrong, you will not be happy for very long.
Now from a more practical viewpoint, sex is really all about intimacy. You are sharing a special and private part of your self with another person. You are sharing a big risk with that person. in order to share that intimacy you will need to have Trust. Without the trust you are simply seeking a thrill.
Intimacy brings couples together it is a very uniting thing. generally you should start with emotional intimacy and build trust up to the point you are ready for physical (sexual) intimacy. You are young and full of hormones so you are tempted to rush into intimacy that your relationship is not strong enough for. You also have a partner who is encouraging you to seek those thrills.
The insecurity and questioning you are feeling is likely due to the amount of unsupported (not enough trust) intimacy you are engaging in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2017): You haven't known him very long and it seems he's getting too intimate too soon. If it doesn't feel right to you, then it isn't right.
How old is this guy? Did you give him permission, or he just decide to take the liberties and help himself? Why do I have this feeling the guy is older than you? You seem pretty naive.
It's not too late to ask him to stop, if this is making you uncomfortable. The fact you don't know what you're doing makes it pretty certain you're dealing with someone who is taking advantage of you.
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (27 July 2017):
This has troll written all over it!
In any case if this is a serious question, we're not here to moralize. You're 18 years old, it's your choice what you do. Just be safe and don't let anyone take advantage of you. Proceed with caution when you decide to have sex.
I'm very very curious though, how can you not "know" if what you're doing is right or wrong? Exactly how do you see this?
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