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writes:I met this man on-line we met up and hooked up. We've been seeing each other for 9 months. About 5 months ago I told him that I wanted to be more than hook up buddies. Since that time we've gotten closer he's even met one of my children. One problem is he won't let me meet his child, which he has sole custody of. He has had some awful past relationships and is very guarded. How much longer should i wait? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responses. I didn't like them at first because it wasn't what I was expecting. However, they made me think a little more clearly. A different pov is always appreciated.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 With the new information, I agree with C. Grant. The problem is not whether the child and you will be friends, or whether you mind the child being friends with other girlfriends. See it from his point of view: does he really want his child to become attached to one person, only to ask him to forget about that person later? And then another woman comes? And another? He's concerned about his child's emotional stability, and I think this is only understandable and very, very much commendable.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 Your guy is being an incredibly responsible parent. Introducing children to serial relationships is a very destructive thing to do to a child. Sounds like he's doing an excellent job of walking the line between trying to make a new life for himself and protecting his children. The answer is you should wait as long as he want you to, as long as you consider the relationship to be a keeper.
I wish more single parents were like him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe relationship is going very well. We get along great! We have long conversations about anything and everything. Sex is fantastic. He says that his child is still really close to his last g/f and he doesn't know how to break the two of them apart. I told him that it doesn't bother me if the two of them have a relationship.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (16 May 2010):
Is the relationship going well? If it is, then give him some time. But if it is, then maybe he should agree to your meeting his child. Makes me think...
Did he give you an explanation why he wouldn't want you to meet his child? Maybe this is an indication that he is not yet convinced he would have something with you.
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