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writes:My boyfriend and I get along excellent. We are really starting to care for each other, a lot. now, maybe I'm the one who's wrong here, but.. Every time we set a date, I always tell my friends I can't spend time with them. And I am always free to see him. We see each other almost every day.. He is always so nice to me, he always lets me decide what are we gonna do, when or where are we gonna meet, he even went vegetarian for me. He is great. But, on the other side, I don't always come first to him. And that is the only thing that bugs me. Sometimes when we say we are gonna meet later that day, he calls me and says that he can't make it, because his friends were upset, and there was some shit going on. Or, when we say we'll meet at 9 p.m. he moves it to 11. And i always agree. It happens at least three times a week. And it's starting to get on my nerves. I don't know what I should do. Can anyone please tell me, am I over reacting, or is he taking me for granted? Reply to this Question
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reader, xholsx +, writes (11 August 2010):
Ok i think the best solution is to talk to him and if he says like well i dont want to annoy my friends or anything you have to tell him that to take you have to give. If he wants to meet up for dinner thats fine but make a time and day and tell him to stick to it or call it off. If talking doesnt work try doing the same to him then talk to him about it and see what he thinks about it then.He should be willing to compramise.Hope this helps x
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reader, cocoqueen88  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 you are over reacting. you need a life outside of each other. you can't expect him to hang out with you all the time. you need to go hang out with your friends sometimes. you are being waaaaaay too available.
too much time with him can ruin your relationship. spend a few days apart so that you actually have time to miss each other. he has thing that he wants to do besides being with you all the time.
you need to get a hobby, go shopping with friends, work out, etc. there is nothing more challenging to a man that his girl wanting to spend every second with him. and be unavailable sometimes so there's still a hunt in it for him. stop being so FREE.
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