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writes:Four years ago, my oldest son and his friends went to his prom and they had a great time. My youngest son's prom is next week and he is refusing to go. Instead, him and his friends are skipping prom together and are going bowling (about 10 friends). Afterwards, they are going to have a pizza party at a friend's house who has a swimming pool. They just think they will have a better time doing there own thing. I know all of my son's friends (they spend a lot of time at our house) so I am not worried about them getting into trouble. Is this something that he is going to regret when he gets older or is it okay for him to skip his prom like this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2022): Of course it's OK.It's not as if your son were the only kid left at home sobbing,a male Cinderella, while everybody else is at the big party having a great time without him. Instead, he and his numerous friends have chosen to celebrate, but in a less formal way and place that's more congenial to them. What's wrong with that ?Not everybody likes the very same things and not everybody has fun in the very same way.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (28 May 2022):
 Sounds like your son and his friends have figured out where they will have the best time. They KNOW they will enjoy what they have planned and would rather do that than attend something they feel isn't up their street. Just because one son enjoyed something does not mean the other one will too. I am sure, despite being brothers, they have different likes and dislikes.
Allow your son to learn to make his own decisions. Sounds like he has his head screwed on and knows what he will enjoy.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 May 2022):
 Yes, it's OK.
I will wager they will have a MUCH better time than the rest of the kids that went to the Prom.
My oldest skipped Porm, she doesn't care. My middle went to prom and had fun but more fun at the impromptu after-party some of the kids held at the beach.
My youngest went to prom with her BF and they got Covid, so yeah.. lol (they are both fine now) Neither of them were that impressed with prom. Whoever was in charge was an idiot in renting a tiny place so it was so crowded that at least 18 kids got Covid AT the prom. She had wanted a $250 dress but instead thrifted one (so she stuck the 250 in her savings) - she was SO glad she didn't waste $250 on a dress for one night for a Prom that was kinda lame.
So wish your son a great night with friends. The friend group knows and like each other. They don't have to hang out with the people from school they never liked.
I am 99% sure he will NOT regret this.
Also, HE is old enough to make this choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2022): I don't think they will regret it.
They just don't feel like being part of the whole prom thing and their plans sound fine.
Are there any young girls who'd like to be invited for a bbq?
I only ask because I know that many girls are also not into prom.are
It requires a dress that they may not be able to afford and a fancy car and a prom partner.
Personally I think it a lot easier to jump in a pool and swim.
I hope they enjoy their day but what are their evening plans?
Are they planning on storming the prom or just staying out of the way?
Check that out with your son to be sure!
And also find out of they are holding an unofficial after-party for those who get bored or fed up with the dressed up formal event.
Because if everyone turns up unexpectedly things could get out of hand.
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reader, RitaBrown +, writes (28 May 2022):
Well none of us can see into the future and none of us can speak for your son. I didn't go to my graduation and I don't regret not doing so. I don't even really think about it that much. Too many other things have happened since then to have regrets
And it's not as if your son isn't celebrating the occasion and staying at home sobbing into his pillow. He's just celebrating in his own way. And he's fast becoming an adult so it's time to let start making some of his own decisions.
Did you miss your Prom perchance?
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