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writes:My best girlfriend, who I have known for about 15 years, has just moved in with her latest man (after 3 failed marriages). She is an attractive woman who men seem drawn to, but over the years I have had some issues with her over her need to be the centre of attention. Recently she came to see me in Spain where I now live and she wanted to meet the guy that I am quite close to, but are not yet a real item. But she knows that I really love him as I have been emailing her about the relationship.The evening began well and we all sat round the table talking over drinks and listening to music. Suddenly she got up and moved to a chair against the wall, saying it was more comfortable. However, that broke the dynamic of the moment, as I had then to turn and look at her and my man was fully facing her. I was a bit irritated but then my man and I began to dance together; at this point she left the room and walked out into the garden (something she had done several times during the evening, she said to check her mobile phone. So my man asked me if she was okay. I said yes, of course. So he then invited her to dance which I didn't mind.Over the conversation during the rest of the evening, I remarked upon the fact that I had never been married and she said to him, it's because she's difficult. In addition, she talked about a time when I invited her and her boyfriend on holiday and mentioned an aspect of the holiday in a negative way and failed to mention the great time we all had. She then insisted on going home when I was still enjoying myself.I've had so little love in my life in comparison with her and I just found her behaviour a little unreasonable. I wonder if she is really a friend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2008):
I may be wrong but i think no! she is flirting in my opinion and i would think twice about inviting her again..
i think there is a bit of envy with her.
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reader, superrrshawna  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 i think she is a friend, she may have just had an off night. switching chairs isn't such a big deal, maybe the other one was more comfortable. what she said, though, was unacceptable. you want a friend to be a wing girl, not a cock block, so to speak.
i suggest you tell her so. if you have known her for 15 years, i think putting a little effort into trying to share feelings and keep a healthy relationship is necessary.
honestly, she might have just been jealous or bitter. she has had 3 failed marriages whereas you have never been married but you seem to have met mr. right.
good luck!
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