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writes:dear cupid?im writin to say that i have fallin for a married man who gives me the feelings of love an happyness iv never had or felt.it all started through a drivin course when he taught me how to drive, at first it was laughs an jokes then became very flirty.we started textin an then meetin up next thing i new we were makin love an tellin each other how we felt.i no hes married but we do love each other an theres no doubt about it.now a year on my feelings towards him have became more deeper, he no's how i feel as he said the same.i want to end it because its a cicrle of hope an i no nothin will ever become of this affair but i jus cant let go.he makes me feel so special wen im with him i jus cant walk away an think thats it after a whole year of bein happy with him. but i no its right thing to do jus dont no how an when the best time is right. please help me xxx
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reader, Mrs. Wendi  +, writes (30 October 2008):
Things always start out fun but its a slippery slope, Every things fine at the ticket office but once your on the ride its a one way trip. Married men has there ever been a future in it,Sin always packs a heavey price, Run while you can and if you wait long enough he will be with someone else now that he sees how much fun it is. Would you like to be his wife sitting at home thinking your loveing husband only has you on his mind. RUN RUN RUN
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reader, Mzbabybat +, writes (13 August 2008):
 dear miss affair, what hes putting you and his wife through is horrible. things look great and beautiful with him. but he never lives in your bed right. he lives with another, and naps in yours. even if he did devorce his wife for you, what says he doesnt do this to YOU? my advice. can the relationship, but explain to him why. its not that hes bad, its just the situation is bad and will only get worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): I know what you mean. I met someone married in the exact same way as you and it is difficult moving from a professional relationship to something else and then back again. I can't advise how you can stop it because I myself have not found the courage to do it myself yet. Kind of feels like you are denying yourself what you have always looked for, but just so you know although we know its wrong, if you give in your not a bad person you just need to learn to cope on your own before you cut the ties with this person you have come to rely on. I suggest trying to leave longer between your meetings and throw yourself into something else. Might feel worse to begin with but I have found it helps. Hopefully somewhere he might consider what he is doing as well and make it easier for you.
Best of luck and let me know how you get on as well because I can give advice but Im not very good at following it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): You could tell him that you hate deceiving his wife (and family?) and this has got to stop. Tell him that the only way you can go ahead with this affair is if he was to leave her (and them?) and you'd consider it once he was divorced. Also tell him that unless he meets that criteria and if he keeps pestering you, you'll have little option but to let his wife know what he's been up to with you.
But the thing is, would you want to actually live with a man who is so easily led into temptation? After all, he could well end up cheating on you as well!
My guess is he'll drop you like a hot brick, which would be a good time to go out and find someone who can give you 100% of his time and affection.
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