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*unninscared
writes:I am seeing my first cousin in secret. We messed around in high school for a spell and recently hooked back up. We truly care deeply for each other. To the world we realize that this is wrong but we dont feel wrong about it. I can no longer have anymore children. Is this really so wrong? I have found nothing in the bible about forbidding it.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (8 September 2011):
 Well if you have the law on your side then you really have to do what makes you happy.
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reader, runninscared +, writes (7 September 2011):
runninscared is verified as being by the original poster of the questionactually after doing research it is not against the law atleast not here. it is not considered incest and can even marry if choose to providing we are over the age of 50 or one of us can provide proof that we can no longer bear children. And that is state law
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reader, runninscared +, writes (29 June 2011):
runninscared is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo there is no one I can really confide in. My entire family is dysfunctional and none of us have ever been close. We are not a close knit unit. We are spread all over the US. And bearly talk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2011): Think about yourself and what will make you and only you happy. on't think about what OTHER people will think, think you how you guys feel and then you will know what is right. If you two love each other don't feel ashamed! Love is love, who cares who it is towards?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): Its fine and you can have kids if you don't have and recessive genes in your family. Its so hard to find some one that you truly love so if his it for you then go for it. I wouldn't tell the world your cousins. People are not all open minded. Do what ever makes you happy !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): It is not wrong biblically, in fact in the middle east first cousins are "preferred" marriages in some areas and cultural groups.
Legally they have to define allowable marriages in areas, to prevent incest, some areas this is legal for marriage, some it is not. If you cannot have children, then it is not a problem to cohabit, have sex, and love one another.
Marriage might or might not be prohibited in your area.
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reader, Cupid 2011 +, writes (2 June 2011):
 Its against the Law to marry your own kin because it is viewed as incestuous to marry your Auntys or Uncles children
To marry a second cousin isnt against the Law
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reader, The Realist +, writes (2 June 2011):
I think there is far more to consider here then the bible. As far as I know sex is technically illegal but I don't knwo how well the law holds up when you are unable to have children. My second concern is how your family would take it if they knew. With both these points comes the fact that what you do in the bedroom and your personal is no ones business.
I think you should continue if that is what you are truely happy with. Right and wrong have no formal definitions so I prefer to go with the idea that we have to do what makes us happy and does not harm others. I don't see this relationship harming anyone unless the family takes it the wrong way but in the end you have the right to be happy.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 Hi Runningscared, When I was 19 years old, I was desperately in love with my first cousin. And when I say desperately, I meant desperately. But he was my first cousin and a bit too close to the DNA and gene pool. Things like this are forbidden. They are close family members. I know you can't have any more kids, but not only is this person your cousin, but your lover as well. It is incestuous.As for the bible, the only thing remotely close to this was in 2 Samuel Verse 13 Chapters 1 - 20. It talks about sex between a brother and a sister....in a traditional family....cousins come right after that.Just be clear in your mind that if this gets out, your family will be completely crushed. Is there someone you can trust or talk to within your family? Just to see what they can assume the rest of the family will think?Please be careful with this
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