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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I go to college, and I have one professor that's always taken a shining to me. I noticed this first when he tried to help me get a job by introducing me to an employer and praising me in front of him.One day I stayed back to finish an assignment, and we got to talking. He said something to the effect of "an attractive woman like you will have no problems getting a job once you graduate." During this conversation he slipped that "you're an attractive woman" in there more than once...twice I think. This is about when I started to wonder what his intentions were.He has since made little jokes, for example, saying, "so I'll send you that email then?" and I said, "which?" and he said, "the one with a picture of me in a speedo?"I didn't know what to say, I was nervous, so I just laughed and he walked away.I just wrote my last exam for his class, and when I handed him the test, he asked if he could talk to me in the hall for a minute (I thought I was in trouble for something!). When we stepped out, he asked me when I might be free. I just gave him an odd look and said I didn't know, and asked why. He said, "I was going through some things at my house, and found something, and thought, 'maybe (my name) would like this.'. So I was wondering when you have some free time, we'll go get coffee, and, well, we have to run by my house to get it."I asked him what it was, and he said, "I guess you'll find out,".I'm not sure what to think, so I said I'd get back to him. It's hard for me to think ill of him, he's not only a fantastic teacher, but so kind and an all-around likeable (sp?) person. Everyone likes him. He doesn't give me a creepy vibe, you know? But if what I suspect is true....I don't know. He knows I have a boyfriend, not to mention he (my prof.) is married and probably old enough to be my father!I hate that I'm even thinking like this, in case it truly is innocent and he's just trying to be nice.I should mention, too, that other students have noticed *something*...a few people have said things like, "he really likes you, huh?" but they mean it innocently...they just see that he goes out of his way to talk to me.What do you think...and how would you handle this? Reply to this Question
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reader, toniaa  +, writes (21 April 2010):
 hi there
if this was me this is how id deal with it.
i would take a step back and look at the bigger picture and if i do this i think he could be being a little to over friendly a teacher and a student should never meet at a house or anything like that. and for him saying he will send you emails with him in pants WHAT!!!! noway that is a real come on to you well i think so anyway i would speak to your bf about this if not him your parents because you dont want your teacher thinking that you what him the way he maybe wants you. if it was my teacher i would have to say something this is so wrong on so may levels let me no how this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): Take your boyfriend or parent with you if you go round to the Prof's house, and see for yourself what this 'thing' is. If it's innocent, then there should not be any problem. If the 'thing' is inappropriate you can just say that you cannot accept it because of whatever reason. It could be that he is just friendly and connects with you. I am still friendly with one of my old school teachers on facebook, and we still have some really great in-depth conversations about anything, but there is nothing creepy about it.
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