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writes:Ok, honestly, by best friend was a guy, but I never liked him more than a friend, I just want to make that clear. Here's my problem though, I had told him something that I didn't want anyone else to know, because it was REALLY private, then one day he just blurted it out during class, and I got in pretty bad trouble over it. He told me he didn't do it on purpose, but I'm not sure about that. Anyway, I used to stay with him 24/7, literally, but since he did that, I don't even feel like I want to be around him anymore. I always had a lot of kind of close girl friends, and some more guy friends too, and I've gotten really close with them over the past few days. I still talk to him, but hardly ever, and when I do, it seems like I'm suddenly seeing we have hardly anything in common. Another problem was that he had very few friends and wasn't very popular (and I don't mean that in a mean way, I'm just trying to be honest). A lot of people at my school really don't like him, and they wouldn't ever talk to me when they knew we were friends. But now, since I've not been talking to him, so many more people have started wanting to be around me. So I need help, do I try to be friends with him again, or do I try to forget him and make new friends??? Thanks =)
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (21 April 2010):
 I guess you have to do what you think is right at the time. And it's question of what you're willing to live with. I would give him one last chance. It depends on the situation, what he blurted out, but we all make mistakes.
The other question you've got to ask yourself is "What does this person ever do to make be feel good?"
I have a friend in my life who always makes me feel like dirt, so I often ask myself the same kind of questions that you are asking yourself at the moment.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 April 2010):
I think it's worth making new friends. He may have made a mistake blurting it out, but he broke your trust and that's not good enough. I think it's worth keeping him as a friend, but it's also worth making other ones.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 April 2010):
 Forget him and make new friends. He sounds like a liability.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): Okay, so he made a mistake. Maybe it was a slip of the tongue, or maybe he wanted people to know that you were special friends. It could well be his own sense of insecurity that made him 'accidently' blurt your secret out. Best friends, husbands and wives, are always going to hurt you at some time or another, even the people you are hanging with now, but you have to learn to forgive. It sounds to me like he needs a friend who will accept him and really be his friend. Are you that person? - as it seems that you might prefer to have your popularity instead of a real friendship.
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