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writes:I met this guy when I was 17 years old and he and I have been sleeping together and been "Together" on and off for three years. I am almost twenty one now. The relationship has become unhealthy and we are more addictied to each other. I cant get him to meet my friends or hang out with my family. He also was starting to get into the habit of calling me a whore and cunt. Anyways he also got into wanting me to fuck other guys so he could watch. I love him so much and I did it. He recorded the sound of me doing it, even though I told him several times I didn't want to. He listens to it and tells me about how he always listens to it, even though we broke up. I was stupid to have done it. Now the relationship is worse than ever, but he still won't leave me alone about whether I have fucked other guys during the one month we have been broken up. Which I have not. My fear is that what he is doing and what he wants is abusive. To this day he doesn't want to be togehter and tells me that I am crazy. I don't know what's really my fault or if anything really is. I feel really lost because I really love him. I even feel sick to my stomach.
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reader, keirston2 +, writes (9 December 2008):
im sorry but you are crazy get out of the relationship. now seriously i have been through similar circumstances. he is a crazy and playing games with your heart and mind. dont let him the reason he does it is because he knows it gets to you why stand for that? you are young i know prolly first love issues but its not worth it he will become abusive to you. i put up with it with my first love kept going back being his doormat. he prolly cheated on you and listening to you fuck other guys is just his sick little way of thinking that it was okay for him to cheat. there is a reason for wanting that. whenever he feels guilty he will just play that recording. just move on there are many fish in the sea. you will find your prince charming one day!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): first of all you are not to blame in any way for this guys behaviour!he sounds to me like a bit of a devient n the best thing to do is stay away from him,he is playing mind games,telling you your the crazy one,i bet that weirdly draws you to him,dont fall into the low self esteem trap,you r too young to be getting into a pattern of abuse from a weirdo like this,the fact that he calls you names like whore n cunt only say that he has absoulutly no respect for you at all,you are probably by now whilst reading this starting to feel a little protective of him although u asked for this advice,thats a classic sign of someone in an abusive relationship,best thing for you to do is spin this on its head,get rid,get a proppa bloke n save yourself before its too late!good luck n b strong.x
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reader, rcn +, writes (7 December 2008):
 You said you slept with these other guys because he wanted you too. Love doesn't include you doing something that goes against your beliefs. You agreed to play into his abnormal sexual desires, this would not be abuse. It is if he forced you into the actions. His calling you names, on the other hand, is abusive. His attachment to listening to the recording is worrisome. Reading that, it seems as if that's at a dangerous level. Down the line, if you're still with him, this relationship may include violence.
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