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writes: Iv been dating my bf for nearly a year now, and we seem to argue alot because he is very insecure in the relationship he is always on the para thinkin that im goin 2 cheat on him, neway we had an argument on tuesday, he didnt like me parking somewhere because there where other guys about, he got jelous thinking i was trying to get attention. anyway i just drove off, and i havnt spoken 2 him since, he switches his phones off when he finishes work and doesnt switch them on until the next morning,knowin fair well that i would be trying 2 call him!!! and i have txted him at least 50 times and i have still had no responsei dont even know what is going on, as i havnt spoken 2 him, this is the longest we have ever been apart, we used 2 see each other everyday, i cant believe what he has done, im sooo heartbroken, im only 20 and hes turnin 25 next week, hes my first love and no guy has ever made me feel like this, what shall i do? i really need 2 speak 2 him, i am now doubtin that he loves me! help pleaseeeeee!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2006): Honey, if he can not see he has a problem that needs counselling to help deal with his fears-most likely this will continue to get nasty meaning he will use violence and verbal abuse to erode away at your self esteem and self worth and have you doubting yourself so much that he will have you under his thumb. VERY NOT HEALTHY.
This isn't love. Love involves trust and he does not have it for you.
Love involves the willingness to listen to the woman he loves and work on changing for the better.
Get some couples counseling. If he refuses, give him a timeline of 6 weeks to think it over and come back to you with an answer. Tell him in the six weeks he needs to refrian from his verbal belittling and attacks and work on trusting you. If in six weeks he still refuses to go to counselling...Honey you do not need him.
I am also thinking some individual counselling for yourself be made as these types of men are predatory and know when there next victim is and he chose you because you are a sweetheart and may struggle already with self worth and self esteem issues.
Get strong and believe in yourself.
*hugs*
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