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writes:What is love? I'm 27 annd still cant say if I have truly been in love. What do you feel? I asked a question about a guy ive started seeing. About me not seeing him much due to work. I cry sometimes I miss him so much when I see his picture I go funny inside, is that love? Reply to this Question
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reader, sarahb79 +, writes (20 March 2007):
sarahb79 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou all who answered my question.I quess im not in love with him,we,ll not yet. just hurts because i miss him so much. Only time will tell if he is the one but at least i know the signs now thanks xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2007): I am 27 too!, I have recently seperated from my husband of 8 years. I loved him very much at one point, but love and in love are different. In love, is when it hurts, when knowing they ar sad affects you. Im in love now, with someone I shouldn't be. I think about him all the time, when I see him It makes me smile uncontrollably. When Im not it hurts. In love is an uncontrollable emotion, something that makes you feel alive.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (18 March 2007):
 Does the guy you're seeing have these same feelings for you? How long have you been seeing one another? You are definitely very smitten with him and miss him very much but love is a two way thing and he must reciprocate these feelings to you too. Here is my definition of true love...
If you truly love someone then you respect them for who they are, warts and all. You want to look after them and protect them, you look out for them and put them first. You feel happy and content in their company and enjoy being together. Above all you can be yourself when you're with them. You never try to be anything more or someone different because you don't need to. You don't have to impress them to win them over and you never have to play games to make them like you. There is trust and understanding on both sides and you feel safe and secure within yourself. You would never undermine them, they are not someone in whose company you feel threatened or small. They are someone with whom you can share your innermost thoughts and worries, a person with whom you should be able to share anything, they are your friend and your confidante and you can be honest with them at all times, you can tell them anything because they love you as you are.
He/she may be someone who is the direct opposite of you. On the surface you may seem like chalk and cheese. Whilst you may be loud and forceful they may be quiet and thoughtful. You may come from different backgrounds, different countries or be twenty years apart but this doesn't matter. There is an unspoken language between you, the spiritual connection between you both is so deep that you seem to be able to communicate without even speaking to each other. You are happy to lie in silence together. You feel sometimes that there is no need to talk because you feel that you know what they are thinking anyway. You feel so close to them that sometimes you think you could almost read their mind. You know when they are worried, in pain, or sad just by looking at them. It is as though there exists some kind of telepathy between you.
Real love stands the test of time, you laugh together, cry together and even have your differences but this doesn't matter, you love that person AND their failings. You come together in a crisis and work through things together and this just brings you closer. You take their feelings into consideration in all that you do. They are the most important person in your life!
Eve
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reader, AskChaz +, writes (18 March 2007):
 Dear SarahB79,
It is probably greiving inside because you miss him so much. And you need to give yourself time to grieve, only you can answer whether it is love or not. Try doing new things you would have not done withut him so you have new memorys.
From AskChaz
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): Is it love? It could be, but I really like this book called "The Road Less Traveled" by Scott M Peck, it really gets down to the core of what love truly is, a lot of people never get there, and sometimes it takes a great deal of maturity and age to really Know What Love Is, but it is not Just A Feeling....although Loving Feelings are what you are after when you are with that special someone.
http://www.ntu.edu.sg/home/hblim/passages/love.htm
http://teenadvice.about.com/od/factsheetsforteens/a/10thingslove.htm
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reader, bby lolly +, writes (18 March 2007):
 its either love or lust you will know wen you love some-1 trust me! you will just know! beacause you will want to be with them all the time you will always be thinking off them and you will get buterflys in your stomach so do you feel all of these ?
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