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writes:i like a man who is 10 years my senior. he told me that he always quarrel with his wife . both of us are married with children. when he look at me i try to escape his eyes for fear that i might give myself away. he doesnt know that i like him. so is this a crush or i really have fallen in love with him ? and can you tell me whether a man love a women with outlooks who is housewife type and good cook or a capable wife who is plump and ugly. which one does man prefer?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2010): I am going through something similar except that i did
go all the way. Now he is not returning my calls. it is just a crush and just look the other way You will save yourself lot of problems.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 March 2010):
 If you're unfortunate enough to fall in love with a married man, turn and run the other way, just a fast as your legs can carry you.
Use your willpower and your common sense and walk in the opposite direction as quickly as you can.
A married man is like a quicksand trap. Once you step in , it is very hard for you to get out.
To him, it's a fling, an enjoyable interlude in a marriage which is comfortable, but may have become routine.
Stolen moments with you provide elements of thrill and danger to an otherwise humdrum existence.
A man loves a woman who is a lady in the living room , a gourmet chef in the kitchen and a courtesan in the bedroom.
reference;-
http://lovequotestime.blogspot.com/2008/07/in-love-with-married-man.html
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reader, spinnaker  +, writes (10 March 2010):
 Ah two people each staring at the forbidden fruit. I would say that both of you need to drop this whole mess before it really gets out of control.
Any man who is willing to confide in another woman regarding the quarrels he has with his wife is definitely wanting in character. And any woman who is willing to take part and encourage such ramblings has signs of the easily manipulated written all over her.
With regard to these outward qualities in your questions, it would seem you have a very limited understanding on what makes a person attractive to someone else and are willing to become whatever you need to be to become accepted.
Start working on yourself, get a hobby, something but do not allow yourself to be molded for the needs or abuses of others.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 March 2010):
 I asked my husband and he said he prefers a good cook, but then he was hungry at the moment after his belly is full his answer may change. Oh and by the way, it's a crush and it will pass.
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reader, Shashi  +, writes (10 March 2010):
My dear lady, reply to your first question - cannot really say whether you love the concerned man or not (you have not given more details) but based on what you have, it seems more like you pity him rather than love him. Also before you do anything, you must consider that you have children and a husband (whom I presume you love). Also that just because he quarrels with his wife, it does not mean that you need to get close to him...banish these silly thoughts from your mind. Good for all around.
Second question, if a man has to choose between a beautiful ("outlooks") housewife and a capable but not-so-pretty housewife, it will be difficult to straightway away say the answer. For marriage the most important thing is the temperament of the couple, basically this is what most marriages are premised upon, like the female who wishes that she gets a husband who will love her always and be there for her always, similarly a man seeks a woman who he feels will add joy and meaning to his life, a woman with whom he feels he can share everything - his joys and sorrows.
Sadly men are also known to be more outlook conscious too, so sometimes they just marry because the woman is pretty and when the temperament does not match then the obvious happens...I feel that you should just treat this man as a normal acquantaince, why ruin everything for an affair?
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (10 March 2010):
 Sorry to say it’s a crush.
Even if you want to destroy your own marriage why destroy this guy’s marriage and life?
Quarrels and disagreements are inevitable in a relationship; if it’s strong it will survive them. Looks dont even come into it when your truly in love.
Hes probably telling you about the quarrels because he wants someone to sound off to. Remember if a man cheats on his wife he will cheat on anyone.
Don’t go there, try to distract yourself more.
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