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writes:hi i am new to this site but i need some help...i have a new boyfriend who i have been seeing for 5-6 months now, but it feels like he does not like me the way he been saying and he barely hugs, kisses and sometimes barely talks to me.we do live with our parents but we are only half hour drive away from each other, so i dont see the problem there, he does work and i go college but we see each other like every weekend or any days me and him has off.Would this be the problem do you think? i would like someone just to push me the road i should be going down if you can help me it would be great many thank. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have not spoke to him yet but thank you all for your answers
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reader, DDOC  +, writes (4 September 2011):
This situation is not related to you living apart. That is the way he is. This is only going to get worse over time (small things we are prepared to ignore in the early stages of a relationship become huge as the years go by).
So consider finding a guy who better matches your values and desires.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2011): This is going to get worse over time... not better. My advice is to find someone who better matches your desires and values.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2011): In general, the traits you do not like get worse over time. He is not a touch - feely person. You either have to be OK with that or not. And by OK.... think 20yrs from now. Will you still be OK with no hugs, no talking, no kisses? As I said.... these traits become magnafied when the ealry phase of a relationship (the honeymoon period) is over. My advice... think long and hard and if you do not like what you see in this relationship now, it will get worse. So think about moving on to a guy who more closely resmebles your desires and values.
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (4 September 2011):
 Either he's not a very affectionate person or he's just not into you like you thought. Most couples love to show affection to one another and really love to talk. If you've been with him 5 to 6 months then you should be able to tell him that this bothers you. So talk to him, and if you see little or no improvement, then I think you should move on because this isn't how normal relationships are.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (4 September 2011):
 To answer your question from your title... no, things are not usually that way in relationships. In fact, in relationships (especially those that relatively new),a decent amount of affection is suppose to be displayed. What you should do is communicate with your partner and let him know you feel. Express to him that you want to FEEL loved, even if he says it.
With you two only seeing each other on certain days/weekends, that should make him want to give you attention and love when you do finally spend time together. If not, then there may be a problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2011): hey you havn't done anything wrong! some guys r just more affectionate than others! have you brought it up? i men if it's something that bothers you im sure he probably doesnt even realise he's doing it! so maybe just talk to him! its understandable why u would feel this way! x
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