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writes:How do you know when a guy likes you?I've been in my job for over two months and I am slowly making friends. There's one guy who i think is lovely but he has a very strict face and not every one's cup of tea.When he see;s im really stressed he will help me, he's the type of guy who keeps head down just helps him self as we are soo busy.We went out as a work group , him and me just kept slightly touching each other e.g hands, body small touches. Just always staring at each other, he kept taking pictures of me, when we did take a picture together he held me really tight. When we hugged it felt like he was squeezing life out of me.At work, this colleague literally abused me and I defended myself. He was there with another colleague, I left the room after. I found out he had actually gone searching for me to see if I was ok, through the whole building, outside and was going to ask if some one could look at the toilets. He went told my manager and told others. Our friends told me how he was really mad and they have never ever seen him this mad over the years. Even though they had been abused them selves.You could see guilt on his face, he was saying he didn't get involved because I have to learn to defend myself as I am new but he was really mad.I'm not sure if he does like me as a friend or more. hmm :/ Reply to this Question
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (23 December 2012):
Hi there. He seems to at least care about what happens to you, when he stepped in to try and defend you.
And then went looking for you to see if you were okay.
It seems that he has some feelings for you, when he hugged you and took a photo of you together.
It also seems that he is naturally shy, as well.
And he is concerned about what other people think of him, as well.
Which is probably why he had a bit of an about face and said something to you, about being able to fend for yourself.
So I wouldn't be reading too much into that, if I were you.
Just take things slowly from now on, as you DO have to work together after all.
It could develop into something more, over the months, and then again, it might stay as friends only.
Most people are wary of office romances, as it is alright while things are going well.
However, the minute you have a lovers' quarrel, all hell breaks loose.
And it affects everyone, very negatively.
It also makes for some very awkward and uncomfortable moments for others, as well.
So consider it very carefully, for this reason.
And don't give him too much encouragement, just in case you are wrong and he feels embarrassed.
So perhaps from now on, just be kind, friendly and respectful towards him, and just see what develops - if anything - over time.
In other words, let him take the lead.
It could possibly take many weeks or even months, to see if anything is going to develop.
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