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writes:For a year and a half, I've noticed this guy and his dad at the gym the same time I go. He usually keeps to himself and there to workout with his dad. I never saw him, not even once chatting with a woman. For six months, I've noticed he'd look at me, but when I catch him he would turn away. To make a long story short, I gather this guy is very shy and probably afraid of approaching me, so I approached him and introduced myself. This was a month ago and since then, he would find ways to cross paths with me at the gym to chat or I'll go up to him and say hi. Where I'm going with this is that... I'll always catch him looking at me and when I see him he'll turn away. When I talk to him, he's very attentive, he listens and looks at my eyes. I love his smile and the way he makes me smile. I love that he's close to his dad, has family values, love kids and is concern with what's going on in the world. For the most I can't keep a staight face when I see him, he makes me giddy like a little girl, he makes me laugh and smile. Bottom line is... I'm attracted to him and I can't get him out of my head. More so, I'm attracted to what's inside of him. Problem is... I don't know if he likes me or is he just being nice and friendly? He hasn't asked for my # nor has he asked me out. He indicated that he's single, but that just mean that he's not married, but would he have a girlfriend and not mention it? Then again, would a guy with a girlfriend talk to another woman? Is he interested? Any feedback would be helpful. Thank you.
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reader, bella5153 +, writes (21 March 2011):
bella5153 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice. Perhaps it's just an infatuation, I'm going to lay low for a bit and see if the feelings will go away. Thank you for your time and for your feedback. ; )
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): I remember being so giddy that I had a huge grin on my face everytime I saw my husband. Lol. I love that feeling!Anywase, if he was looking at you and then looking away when you saw him - that in itself is a sign that he is interested. I think a good rule of thumb is if he interacts with you differently then with other people (namely women) then he feels differently about you. Especially the listening part - it's hard to pay attention to someone completely and really listen to what they are saying unless you are really interested in them! There are 12 signs of attraction at http://www.relationship-circle.com/5-Signs-That-Someone-is-Attracted-to-You.html. It may give you a "Oh yeah, he does that!" moment.But if he's shy or not asking you for your number then you may eventually have to ask initiate it. Ask him where he's going this weekend, but let him invite you out. You will have actually initiated it but he will feel like he's done all the work when he asks you out. And if he's attached you may find out by digging into his plans as well.Or just straight up ask him out! He may like the straightforwardness of it. And if not then at least you know, right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): lol if he said he's single that means he's interested. Men like this who are shy have difficulty with initiative. I used to be like him. He needs your persistence here and also your clear intentions with him, just so he gets a feel for who you are more and can help build trust. Just ask this guy out. If he says no, then I wouldnt chase. That probably means he lacks some self confidence which could be a flag to a woman who seems to be the opposite in that regard. Good luck.
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reader, bella5153 +, writes (20 March 2011):
bella5153 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Kilcardy. Fearing rejection, I won't ask him out. But thanks to you I'll tell him that I find him attractive and leave the ball in his court. ; )
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reader, Kilcardy +, writes (20 March 2011):
It's 2011. I think it's ok if in the middle of one your chats with him, you ask him out. Of course he likes you. What's not to like? Once you ask him, you'll get the answers to all of your questions. Good luck.
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