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writes:I think i may just need a little reassurance, i've never been in a long term relationship before but am increasingly wanting one, if that makes sense. i feel like i need more intimacy, i would like someone to cuddle up with and spend more time with. i seem almost desperate for it. i have some lovely friends who are really amazing but i still feel empty somehow, is this feeling of loneliness normal, will it pass? i hate it at the moment, i have no idea why but i ended up crying last night, which is so unlike me... perhaps its just hormones! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much girlies!! you captured exactly how i'm feeling at the momement and you are completly right i've got a great set of family and friends i'll focus on that until it passes. perhaps i have honed in on one person actually, i'll consider it... it's good to know that i am not alone in this and hope it will pass for all of us, we all deserve to be loved, take care... thank you xx
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reader, terrified +, writes (8 June 2009):
I know EXACTLY how you feel, I am a girl the same age as you (and coincidentally the same country), and know the feeling of incredible loneliness.
My friends are all great people, and I love them (in a Platonic way) but recently they've all started getting into serious and long term relationships. I have never been in a proper relationship, and get very jealous when I see them as couples. I really want the feeling of being loved, and having never experienced it before, and it does make me feel worried about my future. Thing is, I realised that I was only seeing the people in relationships; the majority of my friends are actually single, I was only noticing the ones in relationships and getting jealous of them, even though most of them are actually single, and a lot of them have never had a proper relationship, and are in a similar situation to me.
It will pass; I get feelings similar to the ones you've described all the time, but they're usually in phases of a few days or even weeks. Other times I feel completely fine. I know it's incredibly hard, I've often cried just because I've felt so hopeless and lonely, but it will pass.
There are also good things about being single, so if you focus on them then it could make things a lot easier :) have you talked to your friends about it? I'm sure some of them will have similar feelings, and just to know that someone else feels the same can make it better.
I hope this helped xxx
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (8 June 2009):
 Yes, it's quite understandable and normal actually. Especially at our age. Everyday, we are surronded by sex and love, etc. So, why wouldn't we want the same things for ourselves? exactly.
At the end of the day, remind yourself that you have great friends and a great family. They are truly the best things in our life. At some point, you will realize that.
Maybe, you are looking for a certain someone, subconciously. You have an ideal boyfriend in your mind, and maybe it's that nobody else seems to compare so you let them pass you by.
but, I have found that, once I stop looking for it - thats when it finally comes around.
You are not the only one who doesn't have a boyfriend, there ARE people who feel the exact same as you, right this second, today, tomorrow and a month from now, you are not alone.
Just relax, live - laugh - love.
Best of luck
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): Hallo lovely, theres nothing wrong with you. Everyone needs a cuddle now n then. Having friends are completely different to sharing a warm cuddle with your partner. I understand littleone and im older than u. But protect ure mind body and soul for the right one,not out of desparation,cos thts wen u get hurt. Take ure time flirt,take numbers b happy within yourself first and the rest will follow. Now make a wish......*
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