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writes:I know this not a relationship question, but I just want to know if I'm being treated unfairly. So my dad passed away not too long ago and I had to live with somebody else now, she took custody of me. She applied for a benefit so I can' get stuff for my self. It's like $400 and she told me she was gonna give me $200 dollar every month but she changed it to $ 100 every month, if I fix my hair for $50 and get some grooming stuff, I dont even have snack money for school and nobody gives me money anymore... I'm not being greedy but I just wanna know if it's fair and What do you think. Thanks :)
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reader, person12345 +, writes (24 May 2012):
 $50 for a hair cut?! You can get them for under $10. You can also spend like $35 one time and buy something called a creaclip and some good hair scissors, cut your own hair. I used that all through college. Works great. Like SFC says, she's not even required to give you allowance. $400/per month is next to nothing for living expenses. That $400 isn't supposed to go to you, it's supposed to go to food and clothing and shelter. When I was your age I got $40/month. When I wanted more I got a job as a cashier. $100/month is a LOT for allowance.
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reader, grymsoul +, writes (24 May 2012):
 To be honest, You're lucky you're getting anything at all. My mom is also receiving money from the government. She's on disability. She gets around $650-700 a month and most if not all goes towards her medical, rent and food. And she still has other stuff which she wants but can't have. . .like doing her hair. So you're pretty lucky to be getting $100 spending cash. If you really wanted to have more out of that $100, you would be creative. My sister does her own hair. All she does is buy the products at walmart for less than $20 and hog the bathroom all weekend, lol. When she comes out, it looks as if she just spent her whole allowance at a salon. So I'm sure if you were determined enough, you could follow her lead. Get a part time job where you can earn your own money. You'll have a greater appreciation for it when your sweat is what's being spent to get it. I'm sure your guardian is spending way more than $300 monthly on you. Food, lights, water, gas(if she has a car), insurance, rent, her needs, your needs, etc. Be grateful she gave you spending cash. Adults have a lot of responsibility and unfortunately, the majority of us work hard just to get by.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 May 2012):
 Here's izzygurl's back story: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-dont-want-my-dad-to-die-hes.html
And she had another situation back in November which we still don't know what happened: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/can-my-new-facebook-friend-be-trusted-should.html
That may help people understand the situation a bit better.
Izzygurl, your guardian is responsible for your health and well-being, your hair sounds really expensive to care for, perhaps a better way to deal with it is to change up the hairstyle for now? Maybe learn to do some of the treatments yourself?
The other aunts have really answered this question very well. I hope you are in a loving home with people who want the best for you. Please take good care of yourself, okay?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 May 2012):
 I work for the federal government agency in the USA that manages retirement, survivors and disability payments. That is probably WHERE the person who has custody of you is getting survivors benefits from. It is based on what your dad paid into the system while he was alive and working.
This is SUPPORT money for you and this person has to account yearly (in writing) to the government for how they are spending the money. FOOD, CLOTHING and SHELTER are what are critical. Medical Care comes next. $400 per month does not begin to cover your living expenses. Spending money (your "allowance") is OPTIONAL.
My son gets SSI from the government due to his disability. ALL of it has to go towards his rent and board at his group home. There is NOTHING left for extras and in addition we have to supplement his expenses for medical and clothing. NO spare cash there.
At 16 if I wanted spare cash I had to work and have a job. So I did. In fact, I have held a job since I was 14 years old in order to have spending money. My parents provided the necessities of life, I got to pay for the fun stuff… It’s very very fair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2012): Yeah it's fair. $50 bucks for a hair cut is not an essential part of life whether you like to think it is or not.
You're the one choosing expensive looking hair over snack money.
There are lots of different ways to make extra cash, mow lawns, deliver papers, help old people do chores etc. if you want cash start earning it. If you want to spend 50 bucks on hair earn that money. Or you could sign up for those hair stylist classes and let students do your hair. Those are actually free.
OP your financial situation isn't perfect and grooming is very much a luxury which is not essential to living. If you want luxuries then start earning cash. You could make and sell bracelets, walk dogs, wait tables on the weekend.
It is fair OP, she has to do what she thinks is best with that money and just having the essentials is an expensive thing.
25 bucks a week is a hell of a lot more then I got when I was your age. So I actually worked in a kitchen cleaning dishes at the weekend to earn more cash.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 May 2012):
 Eh darling, I am afraid it's fair. I am not much at current with the cost of living in USA, but all in all, if this person is fully supporting you for food, utilities,toiletries, transportation, maybe clothing too ?, she is spending more than just 300 USD a month, so she is getting back just part of her expenses.
Maybe you could get yourself some money working some hours after school ( babysitting, dog-walking, stuff like that ? )
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