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writes:I need you to please tell me what happened here:Last year, I became really good friends with a boy in my choir. We spent one whole night together for a feild trip and, suddenly, we became really close. He had such a fun, cute, personality and didn't care so much what people thought. He was his own person and very genuine and honest. We would call or text each other every night and each conversation had deep meaning. I really felt like I could tell him everything and he, apparentley, felt the same as he text me one night saying, "Let's make a promise: we should always tell the truth to eachother" and I agreed. So we did. We kept no secrets and i could always count on him and he could always count on me. He belived in my dreams and I believed in his. We had so much fun and, somehow always ended up together, teasing each other and hanging out. One night he asked me, "Am I your best friend?" I should have said yes, but i guess I didn't know it til he was gone because, I said, "No, but you're my best guy friend." But really, he was a better friend to me than anybody else ever has been or will be.Another time, we talked about how we've been losing our friends to the crowd, that they were changing and giving into peer pressure. Then he made me promise that we should never forget who our true friends are. I haven't. It's stilll him.But this year, he dropped out of choir so, we had no classes together. And suddenly he began to act different because he was surrounded by the "popular" kids. I felt like he was breaking a promise and giving into the peer pressure to be fake. he lost who he was and almost stopped talking to me altogether. Then, I caught him one last time by writing him a letter for his birthday. It was about how we met and why he's my best friend (I also gave him chocolate ;P). And it was all true and he knew it so it was fine. Until he sincerely thanked me for the gift and promised me a present that i never recieved. I gave up asking about it. He's become madly in love with the fakest girl in our school and I don't text him anymore because they become one way conversations. Meaningless. I don't even try to talk to him anymore because I don't even know anything about him or who he's pretending to be. The only hope I have left that he's still there is how he looks at me. Whenever I pass him, our eyes meet and I can feel that he wants to say something, that he still feels something too... Our eyes meet and we share the same pain... but, neither of us will say anything. I mean, haven't I tried enough?Just, please, tell me what went wrong and what I should do because, if you couldn't tell, I love him like crazzy and miss him so much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. Yesterday was the last day of school and I decided to make it a bittersweet ending by taking your advice and letting him go. So, to my surprise, he asked me to sign his year book before I left to perform in the talent show (I'm a singer and the talent show is held on the last day of school every year... We are dismissed from there to the buses). So I had him sign mine, half expecting a message, but only getting his name. Anyway, I wrote: 'Mike, I missed you this year. Text me?' and signed my name. And at the talent show, I lookedd at him when I sang these words to my song "I'll leave my window open, 'cause I'm too tired at night to call your name. Just know I'm right here, hoping, you'll come in with the rain...". There. That's it. One last time, I reached out. Now, I'm setting him free and hopefully, he misses me this summer and will come back. But, I guess I'm done worrying. It was a good time, Mike 3
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 May 2012):
 Honey, you are still thinking with your mind and your heart, your "friend" is thinking with something below the belt.
You did nothing wrong. He had ideas and notions about being "real" and friends with everyone, til he got a chance to be "friends" with the popular kids. It's pretty typical teen behavior.
Sorry you lost a friend. Stay true to yourself.
I would just back far away from him and stick to your true friends.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 May 2012):
 Nothing went wrong sweetie. This is how teens learn to navigate the world.
You should not do anything... he's gone and that part of your life is over... it's very sad I know but there is not much you can do.
You can't MAKE someone be friends with you or like you the way you like them.
Teen years are for growing and changing...
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