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writes:Okay so recently I was dating a guy who I have been with off and off for a little over a year and we didnt talk over the whole thanksgiving break so I finally talked to him once I found out he got accepted into army/bootcamp sorta deal. After that things got a little rocky. He ended up leaving his stuff in my locker and talking to an old ex girlfriend of his. Basically putting me out completely without any explanation. I met her when I had to work on a project at her little sisters house who is my grade (9th) and once she found out I was with the boy she started acting different with me and talked about how he goes back to her whenever shes asks him too...Hearing this worried me, and soon enough its happening. She is trying to make my life a living hell. I did nothing to her at all, I dont get it. Now hes talking about me and she told her sister "See I told you I could get him back whenever I wanted, hes mine" :( I havent asked my question yet so I will now. With all this happening and the mess its turning into, I have not cried, I have not made an ass of myself by going after this girl or even acting phased by it. On the inside, I mean yeah I'm pretty hurt but I'm not as upset as I thought I would be....Is this being strong or stupid? By stupid I mean by not taking action or saying something....? Any help?? Sorry its so long
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): Nope you are doing the right thing..because the same thing happened to me..but my guy did me worse...but anywho that's a different story..his ex tried to make my life a living hell also..but I didn't go after him..or go crazy..or even acted like it affected me....trust me you are winning..because she's making herself look like a fool while you are not even paying attention to her...so don't go after her keep doing what you are doing..and guess what that guy that dissed me for his ex still tries to call me..and I just leave him hanging because after what he did he doesn't deserve any of my love..I just like the attention...and I don't even chase after him..he chases me..so do your thing girl..sooner or later he going to see how pety she is..and that may turn him off.
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reader, sparkleworks  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 I don't think you're stupid at all, I think you're handling it really well! By the sounds of it, both the guy you like and his new girl are a bit older than you? If so, I'm even more impressed by your not retaliating to an older girl who is obviously trying to bully you (probably because she's jealous). In a perfect world, the guy would realise how immature this other girl is, but if that doesn't happen, he's not worth it anyway! Just keep doing what you're doing, eventually she'll get bored.
Good luck :)
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