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writes:Not really a love question I'm afraid but wanted advice anyways and thought this would be the best place.Mothers day is coming up and I'm planning to get my mum this book which is full of questions and thne it has space for her to answer them. It's all about her childhood and first love and first child etc and I thought it would be a really different gift to get her this year and thought it would be interesting to see when she's filled it all in. Coudl maybe bring us clsoer together, because we don't really talk much. Obviously going to get her the chocolates and card as well though too!My gran - who I have grown quite close to recently, is quite ill and I'm not really sure how much longer she will be with us for. Shes got problems breathing and is constantly on an oxygen machine. She can't go out on her own anymore and relies on people coming to visit her. Its really sad. So I was thinking of maybe getting her one of the books as well so that she can fill it in - it will give her something to do and it will make a nice keep sake and reminder of my gran if she does pass away within the next couple of years. Do you think it would be weird to do that cos shes my gran and not my mum? I'm just concerned that although I'm close to my gran, I don't really know anything about her because of how old and frail she is, she can't really hear my questions. She can write though and frequently sends me little cards and letters and stuff. I don't want her to die before I get chance to know who she was when she was young. From what I know she was a pretty incredible lady who went through a lot. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008):
Hi, this is the person who asked the question. Just wanted to provide an update.
Sadly after writing this question, my gran actually passed on. Her illness got dramatically worse overnight and her lungs began to fail. I didn’t get to give her the book. And I never got to ask her the questions. But I did get to go see her in her last hours and to tell her that I loved her and that she was special to me.
I want to thank everyone for their kind words and answers. Also just want to say treasure your grans whilst they are alive and talk to them loads. I wasnt close to my grans for ages but only got really close to her in the last few years. I wish I’d been closer to her always and am now going to miss her so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): I don't think it is unusual at all to give her a present. I've always given my grandmother presents on mother's day, as she is the mother of one of your parents and there is "mother" in grandmother!
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reader, just-ask-xx +, writes (22 February 2008):
 That would be a really great present to give her and of course it wouldn't be weird!It would have been nice to hae these sort of things when I was younger as I don't have much family left and even though I never met most of them, such as my mum, it would have been nice to know things about her.I truly think this will be a really sweet and thoughtful gift and far more valuable than any jewellry or clothes could be.So, get to know them more, and treasure the memories always. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): I lost most of my family when I was a teen and one of the few things I have left is my mothers diaries from when she was younger. She left them partially to me, mostly the ones that deal with her life around my birth. They are not as personal as some diaries, more of a travel log as she had me when she and my dad were on a tour of the world.It is a comfort to have them.So I think this idea is charming. In years to come when you have forgotten what your grandma was like this book can help keep the memory alive. It is also a way to sdee this person you only know as an old lady as once having been a lot like you are now.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (22 February 2008):
 I think your idea is very sweet and will be well received by your Mom and Grandma. Your Grandma is a Mom too! You guys can all sit down - three generations, and have fun filling them out and talking about it.
What a wonderful gift to give! Happy (early) Mother's Day!
xx India
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (22 February 2008):
 That is a lovely wonderful idea for gifts for both mom and grandma. What a treasured keepsake for you and your future kids! Brilliant!
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