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writes:The guy I've been dating for the last 2 months has started asking me about what I'd like to be doing a few years from now... would you take that as an indication that he could be thinking about the idea of us being together long term? Reply to this Question
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 No. I think it is an indication you are reading WAY to much into a single question.
He MIGHT be thinking long term and he might not. ONE question is NOT going to answer that.
About the only single question that would answer it is: "Do you want to marry me". And even then he might just be thinking of the here and now.
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reader, Empressjai  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 This is a slight indication so dont jump on it and start over-analysing and dissecting it to bits. He is merely seeing where your heads at, if you have your life in order and if you have a life that you love. He doesn't want someone who hasn't got a life and will then start to cling to him and suffocate him in his world. Slow down and stop thinking long-term instead think about having a good time when you're in his company instead of projecting your wants, wishes and needs into the future bcos if he gets wind of this, he's gone. Just relax and have a lovely time whilst dating - remember he isn't your boyfriend, he assessing whether you're girlfriend material and you should be assessing if he is boyfriend material also and not looking into the future. Enjoy the moment right now!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 June 2010):
Yes it is. Men rarely open about the future unless they really want to talk about it. So just relax and see what he says, and maybe ask him the same thing too.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 Absolutely! If he were just interested in having a good time with you, he wouldn't care. Job interviewers ask that same question for almost the same reason. At the very least, he's interested in you as a person, which is a very good sign that you're more to him than just a diversion.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 Could be or he could be just making conversation. Just relax and don't worry about the future it'll turn out the way it's supposed to. Just sit back and let it happen and enjoy the time you are spending right now.
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