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writes:I've been casually dating a guy I work with for nearly 6mths now. We both work shifts so we see each other when we can. Its great and we get on really well. He had a heart attack 2wks ago and it was touch and go for a while. This has made me realise I have strong feelings for him and really want to tell him how I feel. Only I know he has more important issues to deal with like his recovery and the fact that he nearly died! Do I tell him or leave it and let him concentrate on getting better? So confused!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot for your advice, its what I thought deep down but just needed to hear it from someone else!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 March 2014):
 I agree with CaringGuy.
Just spend time together. If he JUST had a heart attack then he needs to focus on getting better first, relationships are secondary right now.
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reader, Marilissa75 +, writes (20 March 2014):
 I agree that it is best at this point to show your feelings with your actions. You've been dating for six months, so perhaps you know a bit about what he likes to eat and what entertains him. Be there, provide some food, some entertainment but don't be too doting or it will be overwhelming for him, likely. Wait another month or so...he is recovering from a heart attack so I doubt you'll lose him by waiting a bit. Best of luck to you!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 March 2014):
I would just spend a bit more time letting him get better. I think he needs to be focused on getting better before worrying about anything else. If you suddenly tell him how much you care for him, it might be something else for him to worry about. Just let him know you're there, offer him help if he needs it, and give him a little more time. Then you can tell him.
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