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male
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30-35,
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writes: Here's the story, there's this girl who I've taken an interest in, when I started talking to her, really talking she suddenly opened up about this guy she's been seeing, she was madly in love with him but as it turned out he wasn't with her, instead he was just using her to make out every now and then, he also claimed to be her friend. Now as good a guy as I am I talked to her about it and halted my attempts to get to know her better on another level, of course she's heartbroken now, this guy really did a number on her, however my interest remains...How should I proceed?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 March 2014):
I would focus on being a friend first. She just dated a guy who used her, so she needs to feel OVER this guy before dating anyone.
IF she was MADLY in love with him, it will take her a while before she will be over him. People tend to go a little "blind" when they are madly in love, so she might still carry a torch for this guy even if he doesn't deserve it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2014): I always think it's best to wait in these situations…she needs to be 100% okay with HERSELF and her life as a single woman before she can date again.
Also, don't put yourself in the position of being a rebound…that's a pretty sure-fire way to get hurt.
Give her time (a few months, at least) and then re-evaluate :)
I hope it works out--if she's someone you think is really special, then she'll be worth waiting for!
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