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writes:ok. so I'm planning to do this sexy elegant video for my boyfriend of me in lingerie, undressing and stuff. I'm in that field of doing videos all the time and have all the equipment to do something quite stunning and very professional. So my question is, if your girlfriend gives you a video like that, will you like it? think it's a good idea? :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerees  +, writes (5 October 2013):
 My girlfriend once took some sexy pictures of herself for me. Years later I don't look at them very often, but I always look back on the day she gave them to me with fondness. The fact that she made it for me makes me feel good about myself.
I will say years later she says "I can't believe I ever did that" Which I love, she was so into me she didn't something she wouldn't normally do.
I can't imagine myself ever putting them out there for someone else to see, but I can definitely see others not feeling that way. One thing you could do is wear a sexy veil or the like in the video.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2013): Considering your age, make sure you are able to deal with the fact that this video could end up on the internet.
You are very young, and may have more relationships to come.
You may want to consider how this will effect your future
employment or relationships; if it did hit the internet.
Your have family, friends, neighbors and other people; who know you and could become aware of its existence. It's not nude, but it's intimate.
You may see it as an innocent gift to a boyfriend. Once the video is out of your hands, you have no control where it will end up. That's my take on it.
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reader, Jadakiss87  +, writes (5 October 2013):
Make the video, he will love it. I would love for my partner to do something spontaneous like that! But be wary that should you guys break up IF he is in control of the disc.....people are probably going to see it, I'd suggest keeping the disc at yours and letting him see if for a small period of time before taking it back, maybe then after a few months make another? Always stay in control of the disc though!
Good luck!
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reader, like I see it  +, writes (5 October 2013):
 Your question had two parts so I will address both.Do I think he would like it? Absolutely. He already finds you attractive and you making the effort to do a hot video for him will, I'm sure, only turn him on further.Do I think it's a good idea? No. Not even if you were engaged (or even married) to this guy. Given the current technology and the ease of spreading pictures and videos around the internet, you just never know where this stuff is going to end up. Maybe your boyfriend is not the type to ever do that to you, but what if someone else in his home (friends, siblings, TV or computer repair person, you name it) finds the video? Here in the US "revenge porn" (as it's known when someone spreads explicit content about a former sex partner without their permission) is a big enough deal that my state is trying to pass a law making the penalties for it worse. To say it can ruin lives is an understatement - teenage girls have literally committed suicide over inappropriate photos of them being posted to social media without their knowledge. You're not 15 anymore and the prospect probably wouldn't bother you quite that much, but it's still not something I'd call a good idea.What I'd suggest instead if you want to spice things up in the bedroom: take a burlesque, pole or lap dance class (from personal experience, they're fun as heck and a great workout too), then take the moves you learn and try them out on your boyfriend in person. That way he gets the hot show, you both get a happy ending in the bedroom afterward, and there's no evidence lying around for anyone to get their hands on later.Good luck and best wishes :)
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reader, llifton +, writes (4 October 2013):
 Most definitely. Do. It.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (4 October 2013):
I would like it if it became a little bit pornographic, otherwise I'd prefer pictures or the real thing.
Either way I'm sure he'll appreciate it. You could start it and pretend you were gonna watch a regular movie. Then pounce on him.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (4 October 2013):
 I think he'll love it. No doubt about it!
But I think you should be careful. How long have you been with this guy? Are you 100% positive he won't show it to friends, or make copies that you don't know about? Protect yourself and make sure that if someday you break up - this won't come back to bite you in the butt!
I suggest making the DVD one that is locked from any copying, and just be sure that you have control over its whereabouts, so that if someday you should go your separate ways, you won't have to wonder what came of that video, who has seen it, etc. Even if your guy is a good guy, who is to say that a friend/housemate won't stumble upon it and it ends up in the wrong hands?
Have fun, get foxy on film, but be careful!
Break a leg!
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