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writes:We'd flirt etc online and he told me he liked me. I liked him a lot too. He lives in the UK and I'm in the US. One day I wrote him a nice long email explaining how I feel about him and really liked him. I hinted that I wanted to be in a relationship with him even if it was long distance. I even showed him a blog about a successful ldr couple from the us and uk. All he said was I don't know what to say! Before awhile back when we First started talking he told me he thought that long distance relationships don't usually work. Is this case of 'he's just not that into me'
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 June 2011):
 He had already told you that he does not believe in LDRs, which are actually hard to handle and require a high level of effort and committment.
He may have been sincere in telling that he likes you . He probably does. But "like " is by no means enough to be in a committed, and monogamous , relationship with a semi-unknown girl who lives thousands of miles away.
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reader, radiocreep  +, writes (21 June 2011):
well have you met him in person ever? you know sometimes guys are like children, prolly you would scared him off a bit with that email ,i understand you wanted 2 tell him how you like him.but besides from flirt,how much do you know about him?
I think you should take it easy and let see how's everything happened.
and now he knows you have fallen for him. if he didnt say anything and take action, its time to face the ugly truth. i know its hard but gotta stay strong and let go.xoxoxoxoxo
hope my answer could make you think about this relationship deeply:) cheer up!
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reader, N91  +, writes (21 June 2011):
 Well, for a start you're both pretty young and you live thousands of miles away, do you think that's a good idea? I mean, what are the chances that you're going to meet up anytime soon?
You can't hang out, see each other or get intimate or do any other things that a healthy relationship entails. You both have to be faithful to each other despite the temptations of other people that you see every single day...
I don't believe in LDRs, I just don't see how people can enjoy them, it's basically a friendship that can't develop. I also don't think it's fair on either party that they are tied up to a person that they aren't going to see...
Maybe he is thinking about those points ^ Maybe you're just an online friend to him? I personally wouldn't get involved in a LDR for the reasons I've mentioned.
Sorry if this sounds a little harsh, but hope it helps.
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