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writes:Hi. So i got a real quick question to ask. Does true love really exist? or is it just what people create when they are in public in order to hide their problems? I mean ive never experienced true love myself neither do my parents. They are always on a debate infront of us(me and my siblings) its disturbing. So does it exist or should i just give up and stop trying to find the right guy? Reply to this Question
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (24 September 2012):
 Yes true love does exist. All couples have their disagreements but it is definitely best to look for an amazing person to be happy with. You'll never find a perfect person, but you should never settle for someone who you don't love or who doesn't love you.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 September 2012):
 True love does exist, but I think you are confusing love with harmony. There can be lots of true love, and yet people have arguments and fights. Just the same, there can be couples who never fight, but that doesn't mean they love each other.
It actually tends to be that the one you love the most is the one you have the most intensive and hurtful fights with. It hurts because you care so much about them. If you didn't care about them you wouldn't be interested in fighting with them, because you could just ignore them.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (24 September 2012):
 Love exists! But love is work. It's not always cuddly and perfect. People will disagree - that's just life. Fights happen. It's just how you work through them that dictates the healthiness and success of your relationship.
I think "true love" has this fairytale connotation, where it's all rainbows and butterflies. That's not realistic. Like a best friend or a sibling - you love each other, but sometimes you get into squabbles or fights. When you're super close to someone, fights are bound to ensue. It is HOW you fight that is important.
Not all fighting is healthy - verbal abuse, physical abuse, that is never okay or healthy. A bit of fighting is normal, but abuse is unacceptable.
There is no need to give up... just know that the "right" guy does not mean that you will never fight and that you'll agree on everything. But it does mean that ultimately you like and respect each other, and that you'll work on problems that come up.
Don't give up, never give up! Good luck!
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