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writes:Can too much sex in a relationship ever be bad? My boyfriend and I used to have sex an average amount but recently it has become more frequent. I'm scared our relationship will become merely based on sex... Is that a possibility? Can there ever be too much sex? We are both initiating it so it's not a one sided thing but I really care about my boyrfiend so I don't want this to jeopardise our relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, red1982  +, writes (17 January 2008):
Just think yourself lucky!! Whe I was first with my husband we were always at it. Now married with two kids we just about manage it twice a week!!
Make the most of it while you can. Your sex drives will damper eventually - until then just have fun, make sure that you still do other stuff as a couple and I'm sure you will both be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): If you're both happy with the quantity and the quality I don't see there's any problem. An increase in quantity beyond the 'norm' - which varies from couple to couple - would almost certainly reduce the quality.
As far as a man is concerned, there's no such thing as 'bad sex' so just enjoy what you're getting and if it's too much for you, tell him otherwise he won't know if he's overdoing it as far as you are concerned. Make hay while the sun shines!
Phil
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (17 January 2008):
Why are you so worried if he's not complaining?If you are also enjoying it then don't worry too much.However i believe that too much of anything is bad.I don't think the sex itself can pose a problem but it's how you feel about it.Anyway as most people will tell you,enjoy it while it lasts coz it aint gonna be like that forever.To answer your qustion,yes there's such a thing as too much sex.Your body needs to rest and even the muscles in da genitalia area need some time,especially for women! You do have a valid point.You may lose focus in your relationship and da sex may take centre stage.I advise you to take it easy on da sex.It can cause stress at times.
Take care.
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reader, cyprus_gal +, writes (17 January 2008):
dont worry when me and my boyfriend started going out we couldnt get enough of each other then we rarely had sex and now we cant get enough dont worry you should be glad that your boyfriend wants to have loads of sex with you and nobody else just go with the flow mabe in a week or so you will be back to normal hope this helps
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reader, BadAsh6705  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 I don't think you should worry about it causing problems in your relationship. You guys might finally come to a point where you're not so interested in sex as you are now, but I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
My boyfriend and I have sex every day and sometimes more!
Just make sure you are protected if you're not wanting to get pregnant!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): NO, a thousand times NO!!
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reader, IntoxicatingLastBreath +, writes (17 January 2008):
 It's the same with me and my boyfriend..But if you both love each other and your relationships strong then you shouldn't worry about it turning otherwise.If you feel concerned you can always speak to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel about everything, he should respect this and slow down for you.If he doesn't and you still want to slow down or something make sure you yourself puts a stop to things if you think it's too often.But don't hold back on having sex if you really want it..just because you think it's wrong or your worried..the relationship would only really turned sex based if that was why you got together or you don't love eachother, then it'd be just lust.Try not to freat though because it won't do you any goodBe calm with things :]Feel free to contact meAnd good luck~Krissy [x]
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): Well too much sex is never bad as long as it is not affecting other parts of your relationship. And YES it is possible that sex can become the basis of your relationship in which it can consume other parts of the relationship and it could become all based on sex. Its perfectly fine to have frequent sex as long as you guys ALSO have other interests and hobbies that you do with eachother that aren't purely revolved around having sex. As long as you guys are able to carry on good conversations, go to concerts together, enjoy yourselves platonically as well, as long as you can do that without it turning to sex, then you are fine. Like me and my bf have sex sometimes 3x times a day, but as soon as the sex is over we are chatting it up and laughing and having fun together and we look like friends and you can't even tell we just had sex. We not only enjoy sex but we actually enjoy eachother's company. Just keep the friendship alive and you'll be fine.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Everything done in moderation is good but if excessive, it can be bad .It is love or is it lust? The good times do not last. Enjoy it while you can.
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