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writes:I have a crush on a professor of mine. But putting the ethics aside of whether it's appropriate dating a professor, is there such a thing of someone simply out of your league? Because that's how I feel. Of course, I don't think that he'll like me, but still, I just feel that he is so out of my league. He is smart, funny, charming, and just wonderful while I can be so awkward and, you know, can't measure up. Is the idea of someone out of your league just a state of mind, that the truth is, everyone has a chance, or is he just really out of my league here?
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (6 April 2008):
 People can seem out of your league for many reasons, it may be they're from a higher class background, are better looking, seem more popular with the girls or have a successful career. The term "out of my league" is a negative state of mind from the person saying it. It means that person lacks confidence, has low self esteem and thinks the one that is unobtainable is everything you aren't!
He seems out of your league as you see it because he's older, has more experience from life, is great looking and is probably popular with the other students and is your professor! It doesn't mean you can't be with him at a later time when your studies are finished if he likes you too. Have more confidence in yourself! YOU are a wonderful person and there is probably someone out there thinks you are out of their league! Concentrate on yourself, loving who you are and building up your self esteem and confidence.
You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind...
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (6 April 2008):
 No, it is a state of mind. You lack confidence in yourself and feel he is out of our league. Everyone is on the same level as we are all people. There is something special about you and I can bet someone out there thinks you are "out of their league".
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): somtimes it feels that way... there are these group of boys at my school . Cute as can be !!! they date the cheerleaders and are the jocks . typical I know! And somtimes I felt like they were outta my leage ya know ... but one day I was lucky enough to get seated next to two of the 5 major hot jocks and they turned out to be nicer and more down to earth then I thought.And then they didnt' seem too much out of my reach. I think it's a state of mind . There's no real truth to it. You may feel akward.. most of us do .... atleast I do ....lol but I don't think that anyone is really out of anyones leage . Somtimes the cutest guys and fall for the ugliest girls ( not saying your ugly I'm just trying to make a point) You never know... they might like your "akwardness" they may think it's cute. Although because he is your prefessor you probably shouldn't try and get him .... I don't think it's legal for you two to date ... but do what you wanna do....
Never tell yourself that your out of anyones leage. Don't down your self and keep your head held up high!!!
that's all the advice I have for you . I hope it helped
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I wish you the very best !!!
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