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writes:Okay, this is probably going to sound like a ridiculous question but I just wanted to know what you think.Is loving somebody too much bad for a relationship?Me and my gorgeous guy are so in love it's unbelievable I know in myself that I would die for him I would do anything for him and when I have to say goodbye to him it's like having my heart ripped out.We fell out the other day over something stupid and small and it escalated but my friend said we were both just over-reacting and that the only reason we both got as upset as we did is because we love each other too much...Tell me what you think please. xx Reply to this Question
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (11 February 2007):
Are you both young teenagers. It sounds like you are so im going to assume you are. Its just teenage ifatuation. It wears off, then its harder and you need to actually work to keep yourselves together. See if you can be botherd then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2007): no, as long as you're not loving each other to the exclusion of all other things. love shouldn't be a finite thing -- you ought to be able to love him so much without decreasing the amount of love and care you have for the other important people/things in your life. think carefully about the amount of time you spend with your friends and family, and whether that has changed since you've fallen so in love. if you think this relationship has caused you to give those others the short shrift, talk to your bf and see if you guys can agree to some re-balancing, so that you don't lose yourselves in one another. you'll be happier.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (11 February 2007):
 I think as long as you both love each other equally this is never a problem. It only becomes one when one person is more attached to the other because the other feels crowded and under pressure whereas the one who loves more feels underappreciated and unloved but since it sounds like you and your boyfriend are both on the same wavelength I say appreciate how lucky you are to have found each other and enjoy it!
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (10 February 2007):
 My dear, you are both in a heightened emotional state regarding each other so when there is a disagreement those heightened emotions carry over. You can never love someone too much in my opinion. Too many times we don't know just how much we love one another until it is too late. I had a nightmare once that gave me a little insight to how much I love my wife. We were walking down the street one night and there was a drive by shooting. I could not get her to the ground fast enough and she caught several bullets killing her instantly. I awakened screaming! My wife hadn't a clue as to what happened and I had to calm down before I could tell her why I just needed to lie there holding her, sobbing. My emotional feelings told me just how much I do love her. Just be glad you don't have to go through such a traumatic thing to discover your feelings for him. Doc.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (10 February 2007):
 In my opinion you can never love someone too much. Our hearts have a massive capacity to love. Obsessing or becoming infatuated over someone (thinking you love them) is another thing very different and sometimes gets mixed up with love.
Love is long suffering and kind, love is not jealous and it doesn't brag, it does not get puffed up and it does not behave indecently, it does not look for its own interests and it does not become provoked. Love does not keep account of the injury but finds happiness in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things. Love NEVER fails.
Here endeth the lesson! :o))
Eve
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