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writes:Right this is a kind of weird one tbh, I don't know if it is a form of erectile dysfunction or just thinking sub-consciously, which may haven't really read much into it tbh, be the same thing I ha, but whenever me and my girlfriend are kissing really passionately, I am fine when she is giving oral, and actually having sex, but when we go to change positions well that is when I start to get soft, I have no idea what's wrong with me, and some help would be really appreciated. thank for reading this :D
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reader, Dasd +, writes (4 July 2011):
Dasd is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI still find that weird cause we have had sex a lot, but maybe I still feel like I need to be the best she has had every time, because she has been with quite a few others before me, it still could be performance anxiety, which sucks if it is, I consciously don't worry about it maybe it is a sub-conscious feeling that makes me this way, but whatever it is it is completely annoying and it may not be ruining my sex life, but it gets me annoyed at myself, yeah that is true with your last sentence there, but I can really only get hard when we are kissing, and thinking about what we are going to do :/, thanks for your answer, I appreciate it :D
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reader, Yos  +, writes (4 July 2011):
 It sounds like nerves to me: performance anxiety and 'spectating'. As in, worrying and thinking about it rather than being in the moment.
Best thing you can do is not worry about it, with time you should become more relaxed and it will be less of an issue.
Either way, getting soft is ok as long as you get hard again.
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reader, theorb14 +, writes (4 July 2011):
 It happens to everyone, dont worry, haha. You have to be a stud to stay completely hard when you arent actually having sex. Later on you will find that losing your erection during a position change stops. You get more confident with sex, the more sexual partners you have. Don't worry about it, you will be fine. It's just a mental thing. Just concentrate on the sex and nothing else, imagine erotic stuff or something that makes you hard and just enjoy it
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