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writes: Help. I’m confused. I have recently split from my boyfriend of six months and the whole thing has devastated me. Anyway, I have been the stronger one and have not been in touch with him for several weeks. Then, yesterday, he e-mails me asking if I am OK and if I am seeing anyone else. I can’t believe he asked this as he knows how I feel for him. Anyway, after 10 minutes of him sending the e-mail he text messaged me asking if I had got his e-mail and why I had not responded. I suggested meeting for a drink and he got back very quickly agreeing to a meet, at a specified time and venue but said I would have to text him on the morning of the day to remind him. Do you think there is hope here or am I perhaps reading too much into this?
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reader, Sexybum  +, writes (22 February 2006):
 Maybe he wants to meet up with you and is sincere. You said he replied quickly. He might've realised this after then tried to sound 'cool' or 'not too clingy' by saying 'oh, you will have to text to remind me'.
He could've just said that to put you off the scent. He might be thinking, 'as if she needs to txt me I'm never going to forget!'
Either way make sure there's no game playing when you meet up with him. If he's interested he will have to make it clear not play hard to get!
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reader, smeedle +, writes (17 February 2006):
 If he was interested in you he would be counting the hours till your meeting, not expecting you to text him to "remind him" this is just not on and my advice is to move on and tell him you are doing so, he does not deserve you and is just filling in time with you until someone else comes along, dont be used!!
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (17 February 2006):
 If there is a game to be played here, I would say you played it well and he responded. You didn't contact him for many weeks which must have been hard but showed you were able to cope without him while displaying strength of character (and don't forget this...). The way you convey his reaction now and the speed of his replies, I would say he is certainly interested again although asking you to remind him does make me wonder a little as unless this event of you both meeting up is a really long way away, I can't see why he would need reminding if he is eager.
I'm not too sure what is going on in his mind and though I would say he is interested again, I would urge you to be very wary in terms of his sincerity. You need to know why he is suddenly interested again and what has been going on in his life since your split.
Remember how strong and capable you are and keep this in mind when you meet him. You can survive without him in your life, don't forget that. Keep filling your life with other interests and friends. On the day that you are meeting him, have something else set up to do so that you have something else to look forward to. This is all to protect yourself and to remain the independent girl that you have now become. He will only find this attractive but do be cautious of his intentions.
Good luck.
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