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writes: I stand up to my partner because at times he can be very pompous and superior and a real know it all. He can also be a very quiet and caring man but there is another side to him.He can't handle stress and says I go on too much about things, refuse to let stuff drop. This results in him telling me that he is sick of me-he looks at me as if he hates me. He tells me to get out (its his home)loses his temper, tells me he never wanted me there or a relationship like this in the first place. He never ever accepts any responsibility and won't get any help. Does he need help? I do get emotional and intense and believe very strongly in things; perhaps I am argumentative. Should I want to leave him? Reply to this Question
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reader, ladybaby +, writes (17 February 2006):
He may just not be a "talker". I am one of those and get really frustrated when people try and push me into talking about feelings, and can end up saying hurtful things I don't mean to those I love.Try to back off and let him lull things over in his head, make him aware you are ther for him if he needs to talk, but let him come to you. If this doesn't work and he still is moody and snappy towards you, suggest that you move out, to give both of you a chance to assess what you want. This doesn't necessarily mean calling an end to a relationship, but looking at it from a different angle, which is considerably easier if you both are under different roofs. Still go on dates etc... but take yourself away from the nasty person he can be when your both under each other's feet.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (17 February 2006):
 dear reader first of all i don't think you should give up on him you need to ask yourself one question do you love him enough to want to help.No-one should stand for this kind of thing you don't deserve to be treated like that for one but only you know the real him and what he can really offer you in this relationship.everyone has their raws and says things that they don't mean but it gets to the point that do you belive the sorry's afterwards (if there is any).ask him if he really does want you (don't ask while your rawing) and see if he is prepared to talk it over with a professional.it sounds to me that he as a few anger issues that he needs to sort out whether that be with you or sort it out his own way something needs to be done.personally i think you should hang in there give him a few months trial then see how you both feel i wish you good luck in this and i hope it gets sorted out very quickly xxxx
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