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writes:Okay, there's a quite long backstory to this, but I'll try and surmise it for you.I had a six-month long relationship with this boy, which ended very messily with a lot of bad things said. I won't go into a lot of details, in short he got me drunk and got me to do stuff I didn't want to. I broke up with him a little while after this and then it was Summer so we didn't see eachother for three months. Over the Summer, me and this girl "Sarah" got very close. She agreed with me about my ex-boyfriend - that he was a horrible person n'all that jazz. In fact, she spent most of the Summer bitching about him.When we started back in school, she started hanging around with him a lot. At first, I didn't really care. I figured that I couldn't really control who she hung around with. However, I started noticing that we were drifting apart and hanging out a lot less. Then I heard that she spread around some really deep secrets of mine to a lot of people I don't even know. Eg; she told loads of people about a relationship I had with an older, abusive boy. So I got into a fight with her. Now, she and my ex-boyfriend spend all their time bitching about me on FB statuses. They keep messaging my friends, saying nasty lies about me. They give me filthy looks all the time in school.I just want them out of my life. I don't want to go to a teacher or an adult because they will tell my parents about the older guys etc that "Sarah" knows about. Is there any way I could get them to leave me alone? This has been going on for about two months now.Love, S. x
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reader, act-casual +, writes (13 December 2010):
act-casual is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to be clear, the older guy isn't who I'm talking about when I say my ex-boyfriend.
Stickman, you probably think I'm too young, but I'm not as immature as I was when I was with my ex-boyfriend. I was in a really bad place back then, and I've grown a lot since. I can cope with all this drama on its own, the only reason I am looking for help now is because there are some family problems going on and I'm not sure I'll be able to cope with all of it together.
Jrns96, "Sarah" has turned on me because that's what she does. She's a manipulator and has done it to many people. I'm guessing that she will eventually be found out, but I need a way to cope until then. Thanks for your help :) x
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reader, jrns96  +, writes (13 December 2010):
the best thing i can see happening here is to retain ur anger. ASK him to stop. if he does, Sarah will as well. getting angry and yelling at him will only make things worse. if that doesnt work, try figuring out why shes turned on u. is this guy lying about u to her? try to clear that up. if he doesnt stop after u ASK, the best thing u can hope to do is stay strong and (yes i know this is clichè) ignore them. im so sorry i lack the wisdom to guide yu thru this situation better. this is the best i can do. i hope its enough. good luck
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reader, stickman +, writes (13 December 2010):
You are WAY too young to have this kind of drama. An adult needs to know whats going on. Do you have an aunt, or a friends older sister that you can talk to? If not, someone besides your immature ex-buddy. This can get dangerous real fast, especially considering the guys a creep and would probably do anything to uphold his 'rep'. Just be very careful. Good luck with this.
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