A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear People, Isn't there anyone out there whose spouse DOES NOT look at other men/women? All day, i've been searching for someone but every single title i find is all about how their husbands look at other women. Well, my husband DOES NOT look at other women, and he never has. He didn't before I met him and he never will. Of course before we were together he could see a woman's face and decide if she was pretty bu he never scanned up and down her whole body or looked at any other part of her. Now that we're together, he doesn't even make the judgement of pretty or not. He looks at the rating of the movie before he watched it and if it sounds really perverted, he won't watch. He's never laid eyes on porn because he find the idea of it repulsive and he doesn't drool over lesbians... He's a dream. Now if I could just find someone else out there whose husband is the same way, that would be awesome. In the world that we live in today, it's hard to believe that anyone could be the way that he is and it makes me feel like he's lyeing to me about it.. I want to believe him, i really do, but society tells me it's not possible for a man to be this way. Please... if anyone can relate, i need to know. oh.. and No. he's not religious in any way.
View related questions:
lesbian, porn Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): no, he didn't know. on the night of my 21st he asked if he could give me a birthday kiss before he left (id been waiting for that for 3 yrs!), and so i thought heres my chance...he was a friend of a friend and she got us together a few days later.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): that's really sweet.. did he know that you liked him those three years??
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): YES! my boyfriend is the same! i rememeber on our first date (together nearly 11months nows), we were in a bar and there were LOADS of gorgeous girls about and his eyes never once wondered, like other guys i'd been with. i've never had a boyfriend like it. i used to have v low self esteem (because of exs cheating etc) but it made me feel amazing coz he's SO gorgeous and i'd fancied him for about 3 years but never felt i was good enough.
...............................
A
female
reader, DrPsych  +, writes (8 April 2009):
 Well I must be married to a saint too :-)
I am not saying he didn't look at other women before I turned up, I am sure he looked at lots of porn in his teens...but not while I have been with him to the best of my knowledge. I appreciate some husband's do behave badly but we should appreciate the one's that don't (...ooohhh I hope he doesn't read this!!!). People who post on this site are looking for advice on their distressing situations and that can present a picture of the world that is rather bleak...there are nice people out there too, we just don't hear about them here or on the news!
...............................
A
female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 April 2009):
 We'll be walking along and I'll make a comment like "I really liked the skirt that woman was wearing back there." And my dear husband will say something like "You mean the blonde?" hee hee
...............................
A
female
reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (8 April 2009):
 my boyfriend doesn't do that!!! =)
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): well he certainly is a rare kind of guy. most men do occasionally look at other women or at porn. its not such a bad thing as long as they are faithfull but it does make women feel insecure about themselves when their husband or bofriend looks at other women.
but its not like women don;t occasionally look at other guys either. nobody is perfect.
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 April 2009):
 There are all kinds of people in the world :) There is nothing wrong with looking and certainly nothing wrong with NOT looking.
My husband don't stare og give a pretty girl the "elevator look" ( looking them up & down) but he does notice a pretty girl and yeah, I do notice a handsome guy. It doesn't offend me, not him. He's never rude nor does he make comments about random women.
Be glad your man has a good sense of morals.
...............................
A
female
reader, wonderingcat +, writes (8 April 2009):
 And you have a problem with this why? LOL
No seriously, you should feel blessed! So he is an "anomaly" but only because you are searching in this site. I have friends who fit your husband's description. [Though they do make comments and talk about girls when they're at the pubs with the other lads and not with their wives/gf ... lol]
You should visit this site more often and become a regular aunt!
Cat
...............................
A
female
reader, missHelp; +, writes (8 April 2009):
 don't worry about this situation every girl would love there man to be like that :-o he just doesn't want to be classified as a man whore or a pervert or anything like that, there are some men out there like him but not many. x
...............................
|
