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female
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writes:Is there anyone genuine on internet dating??? I have been online dating on and off for the last few years. Every time i do it it just seems to be a waste of time, I really get to know people chatting first by txt, email, msn etc. Dates seem to go really well, i try to be honest and lay things on the line (like if you're not interested just let me know, then i can move on). They are always in agreement, always ask to see me again before end of date. Then they go a bit quiet or non-committal and I always get the 'im just not that into vibe!'. Its so frustrating. The last date I had was sunday eve, we had a great time. Near the end of the date we were really straight with eachother about how it had gone (i said i was fed up of timewasters) said he really fancied me, liked me etc. We had a good kiss and a quick grope. He asked if he could call me the day after but i said it would be difficult as i would be on nights. Since then have had one txt! And no response to my text this morning to see if he wanted to go out tonight. Am fed up of all the messing around and am wondering if this is just an internet thing!???
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): I met my husband on an online internet dating site (I am also in the UK btw) We spoke on and off for three years until we finally met up and got together. Do not rush anything and just have a good time. When you are having fun you will then come across the right one.
Do not give up- there are some genuine men out there.
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reader, urbanking99 +, writes (12 February 2010):
From my personal experience I believe most of us who use the internet for dating are "wasting" others time and yes that includes me but I don't mean it maliciously.
However at least you have met some men. All the women I have contacted and those who initiated contacted with me have only got as far as few "sexy e-mails" I have offered them alternative means of contact but to no avail at all.
Yes all the sites I use are purely for sexual contact but I think "most" women are looking for something different. Let me tell you the "perfect woman" or "perfect guy" does not exist in a tick list on an internet site. If you are both in agreement you will build a relationship slowly so it has more longevity.
I hope you have more success soon.
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reader, samehere  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 No it's not hte internet thing, it's you. You're expecting way too much from the first date. Take it slow - have HIM pursue you, not the other way around.
You're making it clear to the guy that you're right there and all available - where's the sense of adventure and challenge for the guy in this case? He'll find someone else in a click of a button to start the thrill again. It takes more than just one date to build a committment. Take it slow, be mysterious yet be yourself. Don't offer too much information and just be friendly. Have him do all the thinking and all the work.. Trust me, once you meet the one, it'll work out..
Good luck
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