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writes:Me and my best friend are extremely close to one another. I am a straight girl and he is gay. We do every thing together and are happy with life. Everybody including his mom say we act like a couple. His mom swears that we are in love but in denial. We just laugh and look at each other. We are close... When we hang with friends or are just out in general we tend to go into "our zone" almost as if we are the only two in existance. We have been told that we ignore people but we dont do it intentionally. Like we live together and share a room and we have been known to lay in bed with each other and hold each other. We have cuddled in bed in our underwear and fell asleep in each others arms. We wake each other up with a kiss to the cheek or forehead. We lay in bed and hold hands. He went on a date and took me with him. While at the park I was laying on a picnic table and he sat beside me playing with my hair and kissed me on the forehead and i played with his hair. Asked me if I was okay. His date was like wow... You two are really close. He told this potential boyfriend that he loves me and I am number one in his life and nobody would ever come between us. We tell everyone that we are a package deal. And mean it. He tells me he couldnt exist without me and I feel the same for him. We dont have sex but are just very loving to each other. We are not attacted to each other sexually but he says if I were a guy we would be so perfect for each other. He is the love of my life and my best friend... But I do get jealous of his time and attention. He says he wishes he could put me in a little box and keep me in his pocket so only he could have me. We know that there will be others in our lives but we dont want to change us to suit them. We are happy with our friendship. Is it possible to have your true love and soulmate as just a best friend? Is this a wierd friendship? We feel completely like people dont understand us and are tired of hearing about how we are "together". Is there anybody like us out there?
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (25 June 2010):
 I think you need to go out and find a boyfreind personally. I mean he is.I know you are both close but don;t let this take up then next few years of your life, as it seems to be all consuming. I have had relastionships like this with gay male freinds, and they lead nowhere, and it becomes painful as you watch them skip off into the sunset with someone else eventaully. it is almost unfair of him if he;s leading you on a string whic I'm sure he;s not, but he alsolikes your relastionship the way it is. I;m sure he's very fond of you - but do find someone for yourself too. I have alot of gay male freinds I am very close too and since recently finding my own proper boyfreind, my freindships with thenm have become clearer, more defined and easier to deal with. You never need to lose each other - but make your own way too, You need to do something, as it is obviously enough of a problem for you to write into this site with. All the best Nat Mariexx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): My question is, are you both celibate? You're not bonking each other and you don't seem to mention anyone else. Sooner or later I would think one of you will meet someone else and the heartache will start to enter into this.
Also, if you find the right bisexual guy then I wonder if you might be in for a hell of a threesome.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (18 June 2010):
 It sounds to me as if you have met your "karmic soul mate." This kind of soul mate is someone with whom you have a special bond, a friendship based on a deep understanding of the other person. It could be a brother, sister, parent, cousin or in your case, a close friend. But what differentiates this relationship from any other family tie or friendship is that there seems to be a spiritual link between you. You know how someone is feeling, you are both sensitive to each other's needs, there is an implicit trust between you. Whilst other people may not understand what you are going through, how you are feeling, or be able to communicate with you, you know that you can always rely on your karmic soul mate.
I am talking here about being more than just good friends. This is a very special spiritual understanding of another human being. Such people have been sent to you, just as your soul mate has (you can have both a soul mate and a karmic soul mate; you can also have one without the other.) They are people who will help you through your life and whom you help back.
Your karmic soul mate never judges you which is why they make good confidants. They allow for your mistakes, your shortcomings and respect your differences of opinion. Just as a soul mate will bring something to our life, a karmic soul mate also has great influence over the course of our life. With these people we always have lessons to learn; they help shape us in some way. They evoke strong, intense feelings. However we seldom develop a deep, long term romantic relationship with them. Instead they are there for us to grow with.
Enjoy being together with your karmic soul mate. Always treasure friendships like these because they are rare and very special.
~Eve~
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reader, YouWish +, writes (18 June 2010):
 You have a great relationship. It's an awesome friendship, and it sounds like you two are very good for each other. The only thing is, he can't be your true love and soul mate. Eventually, you will want more than he can give you. You are jealous of the line he won't cross with you, but will cross with guys he's with. Some time down the line, that may come to a head.
For now, you can totally be best friends with him, but keep your heart open for someone else who CAN fill all of your needs. Think of this guy as your brother, because that's the closest type of relationship you can have with him. Don't let your relationship with him inhibit or stifle your relationship with guys on a romantic level.
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