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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been going out for quite a while now, and we're both highschool seniors.I have a super strict mom and stepdad, and we can only give eachother a few kisses on the lips and hugs, thats it. Door stays open if we're in my room. At his house, we cant even hug...It's driving me crazy, because I'd like to do more with him, like make out, but we cant!Is there any way to fix this situation? Or will I have to wait till we graduate and get a place together? Reply to this Question
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (17 October 2011):
Shadow Rose is verified as being by the original poster of the question To warmonk: I wasn't planning on going that far! We both have talked it over a while back and we agree that it's best to have sex after we're married. It's just the far and few light kisses reminds me of a time where girls wore turtlenecks and skirts to their ankles. I'd like to not be a prude, or a slut for that matter! lol.
To anonymous: I'm almost 18, my birthday is in a few days x3 I hate being described as 16-17. Makes me seem younger!
But thanks for the advice!
To person12345: I'll be getting my lisence sooner or later (Waiting till I'm 18, but neither of my parents want to teach me to drive!)
So that could work! x3
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reader, warmonk +, writes (17 October 2011):
Bad idea
this sort of thing is progressive. yes I know a lot of people are doing it, but unless this is the guy you are going to marry, you are just wasting your time with him. In truth. most men won't say it but the kind of guys who marry, want virgins.Even the bad boys, The guys who say they don't care are the guys who say that because they don't have one, or they are with one that wasn't a virgin. Guys don't want to have a girl who when they say "they love sex" it solely means what the husband and shown her. He will for the rest of his life bare this resentment and not feel as attached to you as he could if you remained clean slate for him. skill comes with practice and all that will come with your husband. But this was not your question so If you don't really care about that sort of thing than just rent a room. Hence the phrase "get a room"
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 October 2011):
 Hmmm idea number two, find a friend to explain the situation to and ask if you can borrow some space at their house or something. Also if you have a car, drive to a secluded place. Go for a walk to find a good make-out spot, like off a walking path in the bushes or something.
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (17 October 2011):
Shadow Rose is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice.
Although, we usually cant go anywhere except super public places, like parks and stuff, and I'm not sure I can afford to pay for our makeout sessions o.o
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 October 2011):
Why do you have to be at your parents' houses? Why can't you go make out in a movie theater or something? So long as the clothes stay on and it's not a crowded theater, it should be OK. But if you want to go further I suppose you may have to wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2011): Ah I know this all too well. My boyfriend is in his last year of school and I graduated last year, and am currently holding off university a year to wait for him to finish and we're moving away and in together.My mum is strict only about us ever having a chance to be sexual with each other, so doors always open if we're in my bedroom, not allowed to sleep in the same room, but she works late nights often over the weekend so whenever we are left alone, I get the BEHAVE lecture.. Which I'm 18, I don't feel as though I need it, she needs to trust me more which I've told her many times. Which maybe you could tell your parents if they ever have a word to you about spending time with your boyfriends. Yes you are only 16-17? But you're not going to do anything stupid - at least it sounds like you're not suggesting to have sex with him tomorrow kind of thing, but if your parents ever bring up that one, you need to be mature and tell them that you would never be stupid and always use protection whenever that may happen in the future.In my case though luckily my boyfriends parents are a lot better about it, at his house if I stay over I'm allowed to sleep in his room, with the door shut even so we get alone time to do whatever we wish there. At mine however, when we get the chance to have the house to ourselves, that's when we choose to have our intimate time. Although sometimes it is hard, I know the craving of wanting to sneak off and go make out with your boyfriend but you can't help but feel your parents are watching your every move! If you can find sneaky ways you won't get caught to spend that little bit of alone time with him then go for it, just be careful about getting caught because it's something your parents don't want to see, and obviously don't want you doing, you're their little girl at heart still, and that's why they're strict.Goodluck in the future! If it's too much of a risk of unsettling your parents if you are caught being too intimate, then maybe do just wait till you graduate - but trust me many opportunities will open up for you two to get alone time. :)
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