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writes:I think my boyfriend broke up with me last night and cried until 4:00 a.m.,and then had to get up at 6:30 for work. I wish I could say our conversation was a bad dream.We had a misunderstanding over the telephone and he needed some spacefor an important thing for a career boosting opportunity, and he thoughtI was too demanding, but I didn't mean to be it just was case of bad timing and me having had three household accidents (broken glass, etc.)in a row, perhaps feeling some kind of job tension myself! Altogether a bad scene. He wouldn't answer the phone back. I really love him and he's been getting closer to me lately and really hasseemed to be trying to figure out if we could work. Is there any way to get our relationship back on the map?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe Saturday morning update is, talked on the phone last night to him from a
phone booth in nearby town area where he often hangs out. He actually said he
was going to call me! But, other than saying he needed "space" the situation is
as ambiguous as ever. I was about to beg, but, perhaps fortuitously, had run
out of coins.
How do I make it through the weekend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou guys are wonderful. All your answers have kept me from doing anything extreme. Even got some sleep last night.
I took eyeswideopen's advice about fixing my hair.
That's all I can report so far...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): We all have our ups and downs, relationships can be really hard. Just dont run after him. Dont be the first to phone him or call round, let him do the running now. If he doesnt then ask yourself if you really want to be with him? How do you feel about living without him? Get used to the idea just in case he doesnt want to come back. If he does, how many times, like this, do you really want to go through? I would say, not many. think about what you really want out of life, i bet it isnt all this misery.
take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): My guess is that by the time this reply gets posted he'll have phoned to apologise for being so abrupt.
If he doesn't phone, don't you phone either. Silly game I know, but playing hard to get is practised by both sexes to some extent. Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing that you were upset.
All the best
Phil
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reader, little miss helpful  +, writes (25 September 2007):
 i think if it was a arguement over smoething stupid like that things will soon be fine. tell him that your sooo sorry and that you is a bad mood and toke it out on the person you care about most (him).
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): Not sure what to say, I'm having probs at the moment to - relationships are about give and take unfortunately some partners take more than they give, but then you have to ask yourself/put yourself in their shoes. It was very late at night, you were stressed, Elton John "sorry seems tobe the hardest word".But then if you keep finding yourself saying sorry all the time - don't know! Early in my current marriage (18 years together) he didn't speak with me for 3 days and I couldn't discuss anything with him it was unbearable. I ran away and it frightened him to death, he didn't sleep all night, he didn't know where I was - but I was so upset. I went to my godmothers 3 hours away and she insisted I called. "Don't come back, you've let everyone down" was what I got. Got up and drove back in the early hours to get to work but had to go back to his house to pick up change of clothing. He couldn't say to me he cared - his actions on my return was loving cuddles tears, it made us stronger - hope it all works out ok - if not it's for a reason
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 September 2007):
 Just give him the space he needs. Call him in a couple days and let him know that you love him but don't demand anything from him. Stay busy, do some stuff just for your self (pedicure, new hair style, etc...), go out with your friends. If he's a good guy he won't leave you hanging for very long, he'll contact you and let you know what he's thinking. Good luck I hope it works out for you.
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