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writes:I know this may sound silly but ive seen it happen before and i jsut wondered if there was a chance, is there any way that you can make someone want you after they've said they dont. I know that does kinda answer itself as a big NO but theres so many people ive seen where one of them admit their feelings but its not mutal and then afew months later they are toegther because the other has realised how they feel.The only reason im asking is because some stuff happened between me and a friend of mine, i liked him for quite a while n i thought he liked me but nothing ever came of it, i think he knew. we became good mates and then something happened between us. We didnt kiss or anything but we were just sat there messing around and cuddling for a while. Little things became noticeable after that, his shyness(which had always been there), how he would never really talk to me he just seemed to blank me, and how he commented on the fact i was flirting with a mate. I never knew what to do because i thought well im sure he knows my feelings and he;d do something and i know if it was anyone else he would be fine, he would always be with them and would eventually tell them he liked them. However when i did tell him he said he didnt feel that way and he never had, i knew he was kinda seeing someone else which is what made me tell him but ive accepted his answer and thought well if he did he woulda said so back then. Thing is i cant let my feelings go for him and it confused me what happened. Hes such a nice guy i never understood it. I dont want to give up but obviously im not gonna be to out there. Is there anything i can do? . Dont worry if he doesnt want that i will leave it and respect him for that its just ive seen so many people end up toegther. Is there any chance?
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reader, smart female +, writes (13 October 2010):
i believe if a man wants you nothing will keep him away, if he dont want you nothing will make him stay. Live your life,do not dwell on him, if he wants you he will come to you, in the mean time go out there and enjoy your life, because life is too short.
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (8 September 2010):
 It depends on the circumstances, but I definitely think its possible. Not easy though. A lot of people let their emotions run away with them and rule their behaviour and thats when it gets messy. If you get dramatic or emotional, he wont be interested.
However I've definitely been in situations where I've had no interest in a guy in that context then overtime its changed. In fact when I met my current boyfriend, he expressed all the interest and I really didnt like him like that, at all. I never bothered replying to any of his texts/facebook messages, not because I was being rude but simply because I just didnt see him like that. Now I'm crazy about him and completely i love.
You'll just need to give him space, and remember that its human nature to want what you cant have so dont chase him too much! xx
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (8 September 2010):
 I think it is unlikly especially as he is seeing someone else, how ever i am not going to say this will never happen because you never know what the future holds. Just stay friends with him you have put yourself out there and you never know what can happen
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reader, jkirk  +, writes (8 September 2010):
All you can do is plant the seed and then let it grow. (put it in his head that you could be something more than a friend) You water it and feed it with friendship, and it will either die or blossom. You can't make him do something but you can plant that little seed in his mind.
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reader, romany +, writes (8 September 2010):
 Caring Guy is exactly right.
It may be the case that he is a little attracted to you, but he has made the decision that he doesn't see you as girlfriend material, and yeah, maybe a few months down the road, he may change his mind, same way you may have, but these are all maybe's and if's and that aint enough to give anyone hope.
I've had innocent times with guy mates, where we've spent the evening having huggles and watching a DVD, and i know this sounds harsh, and i'm sorry, but its no biggie, your putting far too much importance on it.
CaringGuy has said it perfectly...Your best bet right now is to be seen moving on. If he is interested, he will come to you. But you mustn't wait around. Live your own life.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 September 2010):
It's unlikely. You may well suggest you've seen loads of people suddenly come together after 'realizing' they've made a mistake. But you're not counting that fact that so many more people never change their mind.
You've got to be realistic. This guy is seeing someone else, and even after something happened between you two, he was insistent that there was nothing in it.
Your best bet right now is to be seen moving on. If he is interested, he will come to you. But you mustn't wait around. Live your own life.
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