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writes: Is there any such thing as being too young for an LDR? I'm 18 years old, fresh college student, and I've recently become involved in a very very long distance relationship. I've waited a long time to be with this guy and now that I have something I don't want to throw it away but it seems that every person I speak to has the same reaction: "You're too young for that kind of committment." It's starting to sting a bit.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (14 January 2007):
 I had a long distance relationship for 3 years where I saw my guy 4 times a year (after 3 years I had had enough and moved in with him).
I was 19 when it started, and I can tell you is that it will be more difficult to have a long distance relationship when you're older, because when you're young you're naive and full of idealism, so it's easier to keep it going then. When you're older you'll be more cynical and you'll keep telling yourself "why would I waste my time on someone who I can only see 4 times a year".
I say you should go for it, if you have the patience to do a lot of waiting to see your guy.
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reader, Cordelia +, writes (11 January 2007):
 Hey, im 15 years old and in june of this year my boyfriend who i have with for 3 years has no choice but to go with his family to live in New Zealand. I however have no parents as they died at an early age but the social services cant allow me to go until im 16 which isnt for a while yet, so ive applied for a visa and as soon as that comes through im going tio go over there and join him but it may take up to two years so we'll be ahving a LDR and im youngert than you so no there isnt as long as you can definatkley do it
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reader, Farris  +, writes (6 January 2007):
 It amazes me how many people look down on LDRs. All I will say is just to go for it and give it all you've got. If the emotions are there, why let distance get in the way?
One thing I will say though, is that you should plan carefully your modes of communication. Are you going to chat through IM everyday or ring once a week? Is it okay to write letters to one another? Also you should try to figure out how to see each other every once in a while (depending on how far the distance is, this could be anything from once a month to once a year).
I think the best thing about long distance relationships is that you seem to cherish the moments that you spend together a lot more.
Anyways, I hope this is helpful and that you don't let other people's misguided ghost stories scare you off the idea!
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reader, LoveOnlyOnce +, writes (6 January 2007):
 G'day, I think if you are over 18 and you are previously in a relationship either distant or close, I dont think you are too young to continue a relationship if its long distance or not. The question really needs to be answered by yourself, do you think your ready for a LDR? 90% of LDR don't work out due to unforscreen reasons, so its entirely up to you... Good luck!..
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