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writes:Long story short, I told one of my best friends that I really like her. What I didn't tell her was that I was practically in love with her ever since we met, I was just afraid to tell her because she was, and still is, the only girl I have ever truly loved. When I did tell her, the words just wouldn't come out and I looked like a complete fool before she actually dragged the words out of my mouth. She told me she's really busy and not looking for a relationship, but she also told me that she only ever saw me as a friend. So basically even though she isn't in love with anyone at the moment, she just knows she isn't in love with me. I want to get over her, but she's all I think about. Is there any hope for a second chance with her? If there isn't, is there a way to get over my emotions and still be a good friend to her? I promised her I wouldn't change, and I want to keep it.
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reader, AbigailBradbury  +, writes (22 January 2012):
 Wow, I don't really know how to answer this but I'll try and give it a go because I really feel for you after reading this and would kick myself if i dont try and help.
This kind of situation is a big web to be honest. You can't really do right for wrong.
If you try again and she thinks you're coming on too strong, you might lose her completely.
But if you try and forget and then in a few weeks/months or whatever she realises she could grow to like you, and then you know that you didn't give it another shot you might regret it.
I can't really tell you what to do on this one, all i can say is go with your heart and be true to yourself. Whatever you do don't come on too strong and don't let yourself get hurt. All i will say is you cant make someone love you honey.
Just think, wouldn't you rather see her happy and have her as a friend in your life than not at all?
Good luck x
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (22 January 2012):
Getting over your emotions and still being a good friend to her is a tall order. Personally, I have found this sort of arrangement to be a recipe for certain insanity.
Make one last play, you got nothing to lose. But if she just wants to be friends, you need to tell her that is too awkward for you. If she is a good friend, she should understand. Any normal person should.
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