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writes:I get very turned on by porn (but wish I didn't). I will go for a long time without viewing it, but then go through a period where I will view a lot. On the one hand, I like to view it for ideas. I have seen some techniques that I hope to use with my boyfriend that really turn me on that I wouldn't have thought of. Yet on the other hand, I hate everything that porn stands for and I feel disgusted with myself for giving in the urge to view it again. Very often I will view porn when I am feeling horny (I have a high sex drive). My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, so when he isn't around I look at porn to masturbate to. I haven't discussed with my boyfriend the fact that I view porn. I am not sure what to do. I'd like to stop viewing it completely but I enjoy watching it (I hate myself for saying that but I am being honest). In an ideal world, I would never view it again but I wonder if I am being realistic. I certainly would like some advice in resisting the urge to use it, and also substantially reduce the amount of time I view it. I just feel I am in turmoil at the moment.Is there any free software for Mac computers that you would recommend I use to block my access to porn websites? As well as the moral issues relating to porn, I also think it is a great time-waster too and I don't want to waste my time viewing it. I don't want any lectures about how bad porn is, particularly if used to excess, since I know all that, and that is what I am wrestling with at the moment. Also, I cannot afford to pay private counsellor fees right now. Many thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): Hey there, you know us guys always love a gal with a high sex drive. but lets be honest here. Your problem is not porn its SEX. You have a long distance relationship and ur not getting laid, thats why ur so horney and ur watching porn. I can garantee you 100% that ur b/f is watching porn too. Maybe u should talk to him about this. Either way you can't wait too long on porn, lol see if you can get together sometime with ur b/f and make love with him. I think thats wut you really need here lol, forget about the stupid program lol
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reader, babymamma626  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Well I think if you are worried about being turned on by porn then you certainly have the power to over come it. Personally I don't think that viewing porn makes you a bad person. I watch porn because it is interesting to watch other beings of the same species engage in sexual intercourse. It is a natural process of life and almost everyone shares it..Sex is a beautiful thing so why be ashamed! There are a lot worse things that you could be addicted to. I'd rather my lover be addicted to internet porn then being addicted to cheating or even addicted to drugs you know? In fact, I bet you engaging in the viewing of porn has made your love life better if you know what I mean. I'm sure you've got some really good tips from watching porn! If your lucky your boyfriend may have the same fetish or think it is sexy and the 2 of you may enjoy watching porn together and making love. A LOT of couples do it. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed! You need something to stimulate the imagination when you are masterbating! (masterbation is healthy!) But again, if you are worried about watching too much porn then simply just don't watch it. I know that every single human being on this planet has the power within themselves to over-come any addiction. Question is how badly do you want to quit? If you want something bad enough, you'll get it!
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (22 May 2008):
 I was looking at my Mac and wanted to see if there was a NetNanny-style freeware software you could install, but I didn't find anything like it. As already stated, you can use the parental controls as described...
I would welcome a private discussion on this and ask you to send me a private message. Please contact me... I think I can add some insights for you...
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