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writes:I’m 24 year old and still a virgin and therefore I don't any experience of sexual relations with women. However I do masturbate occasionally. My worry is that, I cannot last long for more than 2 minutes while I masturbate. So, would it be same with a woman too. I'm worried about this because, I’m planning to get marry soon and wonder if my wife would ever enjoy having sex with me. If not, is there any solution for my problem. Some times I feel insecure that I feel I shouldn't marry at all. please help with your suggestions
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Thanks alot for raising my confidence level. do you think if it's a bad idea to use any articial stimulators to make it last longer, like drugs etc
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): relationships arnt all about sex i think you should relax a little she obviously loves you for who u r nd as long as wen you do make love you do it with love she will enjoy it, and i supose practise makes perfect so onc your married your soon get to know what she likes nd enjoy yourself, the lengh of time doesnt matter
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Please don't worry. Sex is an intimate and beautiful thing, and isn't just about mechanics. You can work it out together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad - you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you.”
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 You can marry and still please a woman, and this can be fixed. Don't worry. But what you need to do is talk to your wife about this once you are married, and then listen to her when she tells you what to do. If she doesn't know anything about sex that is fine too, you can learn together. A few misconceptions is that women want men to last for very long to be pleased. The truth is that women enjoy many sexual acts, not only penetration. If you do other sexual things to your wife she will be happy, even if you do not last long. For example touch her in certain ways that she likes etc. This is why you need to talk to your future wife, because only she will be able to tell you how she enjoys to be touched.
Another thing is that you can train yourself into lasting longer. I suggest you google the internet, or search our archives, for more ideas on how to work on lasting longer. Many men have asked this same question, and there are answers and solutions.
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reader, factualbliss  +, writes (8 January 2011):
As a woman i would say if you get off early then why not get her off first. Use your hands. Maybe let her on top. A lot of women get off faster on top. And as the saying goes if you first dont succeed try try again. So maybe you get off early. Do you honestly think shes going to leave you for that? I mean shes marrying you isnt she. So it cant be the sex thats making her stick with you. Yeah she may be a lil upset. But you have got the rest of your life with this woman. So theres room and time for improvement.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (8 January 2011):
i got married on my twenties and i gave my virginty to my wife ,before marriage i used to masterbate several times each day and after marriage i never had problems in lasting long. In fact i last up to 40 minutes sometimes i have intercourse so i dont think that you need to worry at allGood Luck
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