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writes:Hey everyone! This seems like a awkward question.. but I honestly don't know the answer or if there even is one! Anyway, I have had sex before and I never bleed or anything like that, does that mean nothing was really broken and Im still a virgin? Or that the guy just wasnt big enough? I heard that its possible to not bleed at all, but I'm not sure. I mean, it hurts sometimes, but then its fine and I never bled once. Is there a reason for this? Thanks :)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 June 2011):
 Totally normal . In fact, there is a relevant percentage of women that do not bleed at defloration. Your hymen may have been broken long time ago because of sports or child play, and you don't remember. You may have had what is called a "compliant hymen " , which yields to pressure and disgregates without blood or pain. Some women are even born without a hymen !
I find more curious that you say penetration still hurts some times. That generally does not happen after the first two or three times. Maybe do you initiate sex without being properly aroused /lubricated ?
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (11 June 2011):
 It's a person to person thing. Some bleed, some don't. You are not a virgin because you have had sex, a hymen (or lack thereof) does not determine whether or not you are a virgin. It doesn't mean the guy wasn't big enough. It means you were probably relaxed and very into it and he took it slow, presumably. So no, you have had sex, you are not a virgin. In my opinion the only case where a girl can have sex and still call herself a virgin is in rape/molestation situations which I sincerely hope is not the case here.
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