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writes:I am puzzled by my boyfriend's sex drive. We're still in a fairly new relationship (just 5 months) and we're both in our early 30s. I can't say that we have a ton of sex, at least not as much as I'd like to. We see each other on weekends and usually we'll have sex once during that weekend and he seems to be satisfied with this. He has told me that he masturbates twice a month so I am assuming that his sex drive is just lower than average. He's also had some issues maintaining an erection which is why I am not asking for more sex right now. I am trying to give him some space and let him get his confidence back.Last night we had sex and he orgasmed. Then we went to bed and this morning he woke up to a wet dream in which he was having sex with 2 women. I am just wondering what this could mean. I know wet dreams are nothing to worry about but given his lack of sex drive I wonder if our sex isn't good enough and he's dreaming about something more exciting (there was a whole intrigue in his dream) and maybe I am not giving him what he wants. When you're in a relationship, what does it mean to have a wet dream to women other than your partner? Especially if the guy normally has a low libido.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): maybe it's the contrary and it means you got him really excited!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (19 December 2011):
 They mean nothing. They can be triggered by absolutely anything including the sheets brushing something oddly, needing to pee, unusual sleep patterns (such as being woken or almost woken during the night), really anything. You can't control what you dream about or who you dream about, and it's totally normal to not dream about your partner and means nothing about how much you care about them.I think you two need to communicate more about how to get him to open up sexually. Giving space can be helpful, but sometimes you really do need to talk.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (19 December 2011):
The fact that he told you about this dream is interesting. Maybe he is trying to share what he likes sexually. Maybe he's looking for more sex with you.
What happens If you try for sex a second time in a weekend? Does he turn you down. Or havent you initiated ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): This made me laugh simply because there is no formula meaning for wet dreams about two women in men with erection problems and a low sex drive or for any other such scenario so basically your guess is as good as anyone's. I think it is common to have erection problems at times and especially from 35 on. Maybe he has low testosterone levels- he can get checked for this.
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